Just cold feet? (m)
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|Mon, 03-31-2003 - 8:34am|
But, if I get pg right away, I'd be in my first trimester for all this work. And I want to be able to help. I have a baby book that says its perfectly safe to be around latex paint when yr pg. And a lot of the other work, dh said he wouldn't expect me to be much use to him whether I was pg or not. So... I guess I'm just wondering what affect pg willl have on me because I don't want to be totally useless. But we also have family that would probably be willing to pitch in a weekend here and there. And we are planning to have some of the work professionally done.
On the other hand, I may not even get pg before we start doing the work in which case it would be no problem. I guess I just don't know whether I'm being immature and impatient to forge ahead with ttc knowing that there's the possibiility of a lot of work at our new home.
Also, dh is applying to grad school right now. He heard back from one school, and he was wait listed. I'm not sure if that's an okay thing, like if he still has a chance to get in? He is still waiting to hear from three more schools, but we were hoping this one would be a given. I'm really hoping for him that he'll get in. It means so much to him, and I don't know what he'll do otherwise. It's just one more stress right now to add to the house and baby stuff.
Plus, I am really starting to worry about affording a baby. Now, we saw a two flat yesterday where this whole family was living in a basement (an honest to goodness basement with concrete floors), and I'm sure we can afford a baby if they can. We've done a cursory search for median day care prices in our city and have estimated that we could do it and still pay a buttload of money for dh's school (assuming we don't qualify for financial aid, which we probably won't this year because of all the $ we've been saving for our house).
Sigh. I don't know what to think. Am I just a waffler? Dh seems ready to forge ahead. I asked him the other nite if we could start ttc at the absolute perfect time for him without any further influence from me when he would pick. He said he thinks he'd wait until the house stuff is figured out (i.e., bid accepted and moving toward a closing date), but that he's still totally fine with trying now.
What do you guys think? Also, any positive energy about the people accepting our bid and dh getting into grad school would be much appreciated!