Large Age Difference

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Registered: 02-15-2010
Large Age Difference
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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 8:43pm

I was wondering, is there anyone else out there that has two children with a 5-6 year age diffence-even more?


We have a 4 1/2 year old daughter and are considering baby #2 but I have the wierdest fear....


I am afraid I love my daughter too much to ever be able to love another baby as much. lol I know it's stupid, but I would like to hear from someone else who may have felt this way. I have gone through baby fever several times in the past year so, I know I could get past this and I look forward to

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Fri, 02-26-2010 - 10:46pm

I felt the exact same way before and when I got pregnant with my second.

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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:10am

I only have my DD, but her half sister has two older sisters that are 6 and 3. The 6 year old loves helping take care of both of the girls (her dad lives with their mom which is his fiancee) and acts like a 2nd mom. Sure she'll get a little jealous sometime, but in the end she always asks her mom when she can have another little sibling (she wants a brother)


As for me, my little brother is 5 years younger than me and I was the same way where I would walk around and say he' my baby and mommy had him for me. I loved feeding him, changing him, sleeping with him, playing with him, and helping my mom with anything I could with him. I think it may be beter in the long run for that big of an age difference because the older sibling can help out a lot more. I even helped potty train.


Good luck!

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Wed, 02-17-2010 - 10:22am

My DS is almost eight years older than his little sister.

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Tue, 02-16-2010 - 8:06am

We're planning on TTCing this summer. I currently have 1 DS, he will be 7 by the time a baby arrives. We have concerns about how he will do with the transition after being an only child for so many years, but we feel the addition of a child to the family as a whole out weighs the concerns.

I think it's important to start prepping them early for the possibility of another child, so that they have time to get used to the idea... and even come to want it themselves. And it's our responsibility as parents to make sure that after the new baby is born we don't act in a way that would cause resentment among siblings (not showing favoritism, not adding un-do responsibilities to the older child, etc).

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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 11:01pm
I can't speak on the loving two children thing (although I can't imagine you not feeling the same way about another baby as your first child), but I am 5 1/2 years older than my little brother so I can speak for that. I was not resentful AT ALL. He actually ended up being my "maid" of honor in my wedding. When he was born I told people he was "my baby" and wanted to help do EVERYTHING, and as he got older I felt very protective of him.


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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 9:22pm
Awww! Honestly it's a very sweet fear that you love your daughter so much! I can't help you from experience but I have heard many, many moms say that your heart always just expands for more kids. I think it's part of being a mother.


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