Leaving it up to him

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Registered: 10-20-2007
Leaving it up to him
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Fri, 09-05-2008 - 3:45pm
I have been lurking on this board for a few months but never posted before. I'm Bev (32) my bf is Robert (42). He has a 10 year old from a previous marriage, no kids for me.
We have been going back and forth on when the right time to TTC is. Like most men he is worried about money, job, economy, how it will affect his child, yada yada. All valid concerns. However, now at the age of 32 I am convinced the time is never right, when you become a parent you do what you have to and sacrifices will be made no matter how prepared you are.
So last week I decided to stop taking bc pills. I told my bf that i'm no longer willing to prevent and if he isn't ready then it's up to him to either wear a condom (which I know he won't) or pull and pray. I was shocked that he said, "well I knew going into this that you want kids, and you have been more than patient and nice about it."
So now I am waiting and seeing what he will do. Maybe a baby, maybe not......

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Registered: 03-29-2008
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 4:09pm

Hi Bev,


Welcome to the board!

-Suzie :)

 

 

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Registered: 07-20-2006
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 11:22am
Hi there Bev and welcome. I think I remember you from the SM/BM board. I am Japdiv (29) and my fiance, 39 has a 12 year old daughter. We WTT until right after the wedding, so most likely April 2009. I am interested to hear how things go with you ...please keep me posted!
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Registered: 11-19-2007
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 3:16pm
Welcome to the board!

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Registered: 10-20-2007
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 5:13pm
Thanks for the welcome ladies!
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Registered: 12-18-2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 12:01pm
Welcome Bev!!! Your story sounds similar to mine!
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Registered: 01-08-2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 7:55pm

Welcome to the board!

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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Registered: 10-20-2007
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:31pm
Different opinions are what make the world go round huh? I do appreciate all sides of a subject. Just out of curiosity why do you disagree with me? I haven't hid the fact that I went off the pill nor am I trying to trick him.
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Registered: 12-18-2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 8:59am

Different strokes for different folkes i guess. Dh and I made the best decision for our family as I am sure you made the right one for you.

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Registered: 05-04-2005
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 9:15pm

Sounds like you two on your way to making a little one!


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Registered: 01-08-2008
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 9:30pm

I disagree with you that I will not get off the pill until my dh is ready to TTC.

David Nicholas 12/5/09
Expecting a GIRL 3/23/13

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