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|Sun, 06-22-2008 - 7:17pm|
Okay. So I feel ready. Very ready. My husband is the most loving uncle to our nieces and nephews, and emotionally, he says he is ready to be a dad. I'm 26, he's 28, and infertility runs in my family so we're eager to start as soon as possible.
We just worry about money. We own a small (2 bedroom) condo in a city, and making the mortgage is tight. I'm a student and work part-time -- I just got a new job for next year, so we should be a bit better off next school year. For a couple months now, we'd both agreed that we'd wait until fall of 2009 to start trying. Today, though, he tossed out the idea of trying this coming fall instead...since our income will be better.
Later on he sort of backtracked...saying that now he doesn't think his job is as secure and he's nervous of the possibility that he could need to change jobs mid-pregnancy or shortly after the baby is born.
I personally feel like changes like that can happen ANYTIME, whether the baby is a newborn or a four-year-old, and it's stressful, but it's life.
I guess I'm curious what you all think of the money issue. i.e., How much will our expenses increase? We'd of course have to work out child care, which in this city will run us at least a thousand a month...but that would be covered by my new job....but of course there will be other new expenses. Ugh. I don't know. It's bumming me out. We are both so ready, and it's just the money holding us back.
I welcome thoughts! Thanks for listening.