In need of some support...

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Registered: 08-07-2011
In need of some support...
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Sun, 08-07-2011 - 4:13pm

Good Afternoon

I set out to find a discussion board for some support and I'm hoping you all can help! I'm 21 and am getting married to my best friend (he's 22) in 26 days! We bought our first house this year and are just sort of enjoying life. We've talked before about children and both want them but agreed "not now."

The thing is I'm one of those girls who has wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember and you know that feeling just doesn't ever go away...and guys just don't get it. I started babysitting as soon as I was old enough, have been a nanny, and the only job I've ever had is a being a daycare teacher...I gave up school because I couldn't give up being a daycare teacher - it's what I love.

Many of our friends and/or family members are pregnant or recently have had kids (most of which were unplanned/unexpected) and it kills me to see them with their babies. I saw another post with the subject 'all I think about are babies" and that's really how I feel. We went to see one of our best friends in the hospital recently after they had their first baby and when we came home I just cried...

Soon-to-be-husband just keeps pushing the 'not now' speech...he wants to live life a little first and get our feet under ourselves a little more, etc. I don't disagree with him but I am going crazy!! I really don't know what to do with myself. I can't talk to him about it, one of my best friends already has two kids, and the other has no plans of having kids anytime soon if at all so I have no one to turn to - please help!

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Registered: 04-17-2009
Mon, 08-08-2011 - 3:33pm
Hi and welcome! You are at the right place! I don't know anyone in real life who has baby fever, so it helps to talk about it here!

I'm Victoria, 30, and DH and I are WTT our first. Congrats on your upcoming wedding!

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Registered: 08-07-2011
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 10:18pm

Thanks Becki! I'm glad I found this board...I never would have thought something like this was out there but I am glad that it is!

My baby fever comes and goes in phases or should I say it's always there but gets worse sometimes! When i get really down/depressed about it I like to buy small things (like baby clothes, toys, etc) and save them for when the time comes. It helps but it doesn't all at the same time!

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Registered: 04-29-2006
Sun, 08-07-2011 - 7:04pm
Welcome to the board - my name is Becki, what's yours or what do you want to be called?

I totally understand. It would kill me to be a daycare teacher with baby fever! I've been WTT for years with various levels of baby fever, but they main thing that's increased it is having too much time on my hands to research and think about babies. (That's why, with your job...I don't know how I'd avoid it!) The main thing that's helped me is developing my career and focusing on moving up. I started a pretty consuming new job two years ago and recently got a promotion, so focusing on that has taken the edge off WTT. Other than that, zapping your extra time with new hobbies or projects could also help.
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