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|Mon, 03-16-2009 - 1:57pm|
I'm new to this messageboard, well all messageboards really.
I came to this Website for advice on trying to conceive and approaches to take to start the conversation with my husband.
Just this past January 26, 2009, my husband and I experienced a miscarriage. The pregnancy itself wasn't planned, but we weren't doing anything to prevent it. I personally prefer, to let nature and God take their course.
I was supposed to have been 11 weeks at this time. And we new very quickly that I was pregnant and had 7 weeks together, thinking, planning, and reading about our new baby to come.
Since the miscarriage, I think about trying again constantly! I'm unsure of how to approach this issue with my husband. I attempted to ask him today -- "Have you thought about any 'baby stuff'?" And his reply was "not really."
I feel like I'm pulling teeth with him. And I don't want to pressure him and make him feel like he's in a corner. Since January, I've had a really hard time coping and getting back to normal. He was very emotional and upset for a few weeks after, and hasn't really shown or expressed any emotion regarding the situation in quite sometime. Its difficult.
I would like to maybe try again in May. If there is something more to our 'prenatal' issues rather than just a random spontaneous event, I'd rather know sooner, rather than later. And just having taking your "Fertility Knowledge Quiz" I see that fertility declines measurably at age 27; I'm currently 26. So I really don't want to wait -- Like I'm sure my husband does.
Any suggestions? Or supportive advice?
I'm so scared that this will happen again -- even though I've been told that my chances of this are no more higher. But I guess now that I have had a glimpse of what pregnancy can be, or could be, its all I think about, and I want to know that I can do it...carry through with a healthy, and HAPPY pregnancy.
How do I approach my husband in a calm and neutral way?
Is it hard to wait a year or longer??
I'm a crazy?!
Thanks for 'listening' ! :)