New for the 3rd time :)

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New for the 3rd time :)
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Sun, 12-06-2009 - 9:28am

I may be the most controversial girl on here for awhile but here goes...I have a 3 year old DD and a 13 month old DD and a 33 year old DH...:)...hope I got that right...haha...I am 28 and I desperatley want to try to TTC in November for a boy! I dream about having a boy and my cousin just had a boy and I just about cried when I got to hold him...I guess unlike some families that have boy's mine doesn't and we don't really see DH's family so when one of my cousin's had a boy it just made it worse. Here is the controversial part. Well my DH only wanted two kids and he didn't even want them this close in age (21 months apart)....even though I am a SAHM and take primary care of the girls all day he seems to be happy with the two we have and he considers us done.....I just really want to try one more time. I'm really considering getting pregnant in November after our DD turns 2. I know some of you will find this to be awful but any positive thoughts are very welcome...

Meresa

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Sun, 12-27-2009 - 3:37am
Lurker here but wanted to respond.


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Mon, 12-14-2009 - 11:35pm
Why is that awful? You want another baby! Your DH knows how they get here! I say go right ahead with your plan and if he'd like to take care of birth control, he may do so. Haha, I'm sure he'll get right on that ;)
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Registered: 04-29-2006
Sun, 12-06-2009 - 9:04pm

Hi Meresa,
Welcome to the board! I'm Becki, CL of the board. I'm 24 and my DH Paul, 25, and I are waiting to try for our first, probably next summer.

I don't blame you for wanting a boy - I hope for one of each, personally, but DH is dead set on a girl - but I hope you can get your DH to agree! Maybe after your oldest is out of diapers, he'll start to come around. I've been waiting on my DH since we got married 2 years ago, and he's finally coming around to wanting to try next year, and I'm thrilled! I hope yours does too!



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Registered: 04-17-2009
Sun, 12-06-2009 - 2:36pm

Meresa, we are here for support! We would never rip your apart!!! I don't think you are controversial to be honest!! I think deep down many of us would love to have both sexes or prefer one sex over another. I've always wanted a girl and if I didn't have one, I'd be disappointed, but I also would love a boy, so I want both, lol.

This board is great for support and so is the board "Deciding to Try" as many ladies there are dealing with hesitant DH's. I wish you luck on your journey! :)


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Registered: 06-17-2006
Sun, 12-06-2009 - 1:28pm


Hey! Well I know he wouldn't leave me and as for money we are military and make pretty good money so we don't really have that problem. I have talked to him about it and he really can't give me an answer as to why he doesn't want another one. I personally think it's because he doesn't want to stay up with another one at night...lol...he hated that part. We also have the problem that both of my oldest are still in diapers. He has a problem seeing long term so he is having issues with the fact that the oldest will be out of diapers by then. I know he would be fine with it if it just happened I just think he is scared of it happening (if that makes sense...lol). As for the having another girl I would be ok with that....a little dissapointed but ok...:)...thanks for not ripping me apart lol...I really hope I find peace with some kind of a decision.

Meresa

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Sun, 12-06-2009 - 12:15pm

Hi Meresa!

I'm pretty new here as well. I'm Alyson, 19 and my DH is Caleb, 23. We are WTT for about 2-3 years until I finish school, among other things.

I do not think you are awful by any means; however, I do think that having a baby is something that you and your DH need to decide together. From your post, it sounds like you are just going to go off your BC without telling him and hope you get PG. Here are some things to consider: what if DH finds out you are off your BC without telling him? What if baby #3 is also a girl? If you are a SAHM, who is the 'accountant' of the family? If it is DH, maybe he realizes that you can't afford another right now. Have you talked to DH in depth about your wants for another? I mean sit down and really talk to him, just you and him, one on one, without the kiddos around? Let him know you are serious about wanting another and your desires to have a little boy.

These are just my thoughts/opinions. I wish the best for you!

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