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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 3:23am
Hi,

I can't believe there's a board that sounds like me. I've been thinking about having a baby for the past year. But hubby and i want to wait until we move to Canada where i'm from and start a business before we try. It doesn't help that my mother in law and a little bit of my mom keeps pressuring me to have one already! And especially what doesn't help and has made me think about this even more is that my sister in law (hubby's brother's wife) just gave birth to their first baby on Monday. She is so adorable. I saw her on monday night at the hospital and thought about her for days and then went to their house on Friday to see her again. Seeing her has made me very anxious to have one.

We are currently living in Oregon but our plan is to move to Canada, open a business and then after half a year maybe, then try to conceive. We've been married since 1999 and I just turned 26 =( When we first got married i was always thinking that i wanted our first child by the time i'm 22 but when the time came we didn't think we were ready yet to have one...and each year we keep putting it off and now when i really want one we are planning on opening a coffee house in Toronto, Canada...and so now i want to wait for that to be up and running before we try....=(....which means more waiting.

Thanks for reading this long post...

Trai

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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 1:04pm
Hi and welcome to the board!!

WOW a coffee shop! How exciting!! I live about 20 min from NYC and coffee shops are a huge deal here! Especially if they have wireless!! ;o) Good Luck!

I know what you mean about getting your careers straight before starting. There are a couple of us on this site in kinda the same boat. I am heading into my last year of grad school (DH is heading into his first..ugh!) We toyed with trying before I was finished but then decided to be a little more practical. I do think its better to have a handle on things before starting a family......because once your a mom....you will always be a mom! LOL.

This board can get a little busy, and then a little slow...I mean we arent really doing anything except waiting lol. There are other boards about carreer building, marriage issues etc...but this board is helpful i think becuase people who really want to have a baby but have to wait are going through somthing totally different. I always check this board for posts, just to see if there are any new faces or to add a post/vent of my own! lol. So post here whenever you want. I would love to see this board get busier!

:o)

Michelle

ps. I'm 26 too :o)

Michelle

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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 4:19pm
Welcome to the board. It's kind of slow here, because we don't have many members, but it's a great place anyway. I'm Jayme. I'm 24, and I've been married 5 years (Aug '99). My dh and I have two boys. Johnathan is 3 1/2 and just started early intervention preschool which is helping him with some problems caused from what we believe to be asperger's syndrome (he's on the waiting list for diagnosis). Ethan is 10 months old. We are waiting until Aug '05 to try for #3. Nice to have you here. I'm kind of a board junkie and have to really limit my time on each one I frequent, so sometimes I'll go for a while between visits. But I pop in now and then.

Jayme, mom to Johnathan (1/16/01) and Ethan (10/15/03)

 

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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 5:10pm
Hi Trai! Welcome to the board. That's exciting about your own business! How nice will that be when you have kids!! My DH keeps talking about starting his own so that I don't have to work, but I don't have the nerve to jump in and do it! It's tough to listen to people say that it's time you have kids. Like they know the best time! Just enjoy your neice and try to keep those emotions at bay :D I know it's MUCH easier said than done!! Glad to meet you!

~Jlynn

 

           
Jlynn, Momma to Asher and Ada

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Mon, 08-30-2004 - 7:05pm
Thanks for the welcome. I forgot to mention that my husband's cousin's wife is 2 months pregnant too with her first child. I am very happy for them but i am just a little envious that they are taking the plunge and i'm not. They actually wanted to wait too for another year or so and then she found out she was pregnant not too long ago.

Right now i am working at my father in law's restaurant and my husband has his own business selling bamboo hardwood flooring. BEfore we were thinking that if it makes enough money steadily then i'll quit the restaurant job and help him and have a child but it's not steady enough and so we decided to open another business of our own in Toronto where we want to live. Once that happens then sometime then we will try. I just want to be prepared and ready when we try. My sister in law says that nobody is ever ready, so you might as well just have them, etc.

Anway, thanks again for the welcome.

Trai

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Tue, 08-31-2004 - 9:03am
She's right that you're never really ready, but at the same time, you should be somewhat prepared...mentally, financially and physically. But, I think that when it happens, you become prepared in those three ways, because it kind of makes you :D

 

           
Jlynn, Momma to Asher and Ada