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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 11:17am

Hi everyone, I'm Ashley and I've posted to some other boards a few questions I've had but this is where I "belong" right now.

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 1:28pm
Hi and welcome to the board!! If it's finances he is waiting for then he might as well not have kids ever. Unless you're a millionaire budgeting for a baby is hard! Of course there are a lot of products out there they say you "need" but you use once and then never again! I truely believe a baby is as expensive as you make it. So hopefully your DH will listen to some reason. Perhaps there is some deeper fear about being a dad he is not telling you about? My DF tells me he is afraid to turn out like his dad (who abandoned him for a new wife and 3 new daughters). But I see how my DF is around kids, and I see the look in his eye when he sees a newborn baby and I know he will be an awesome dad. Good luck getting him to TTC and have a nice (and hopefully short ;) ) stay at WTT!






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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 3:00pm

Welcome to the board!

-Suzie :)

 

 

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 4:44pm
hi guys, thanks for the welcome, i'm glad to be here and glad to get to know you all. i look forward to your help with questions i have and i'll do my best to help any of you that i can. it's great to be able to find support amongst strangers - it shows me that this can be a society that we can be proud to raise our children in.

Ashley, Married to Mike since

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 5:15pm

Hi Ashley,


Welcome to the board! I just joined recently too but everyone on here is great!


I'm 29 and my DH is 32. We've been married for 18 months and together for 6 years. While we were dating, we talked about family and knew it would happy someday. DH used to freak out if he had to hold a child, now he seeks them out! I can't remember if this happened before or after we were married but the point I'm trying to make is your DH will come around when he is ready. Now DH is pushing me to TTC but I want to wait until we're both close to graduating from grad school next year.


I think all guys are worried about the financial aspect of raising a child but I have begun to realize that there is no perfect time to have a baby. There will always be something financial to worry about, esp. in today's economy. I have a friend who has been married for 4 years and her and her DH have stable jobs. She is due

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 10:00pm
Actually my DH is around kids a good bit, most of our friends have families. And he won't hold a baby or go near a diaper, but he's great with kids in general. He'll talk to them and joke with them but won't do what you would call typical "playing", like rolling on the floor or pushing a swing. But kids love HIM for some reason. He told me when we were dating that he did want kids, but only when he was ready, and at the time he said he wanted one by the time her was 30. well that's next week and he isn't ready. he just says he's happy the way things are right now and he feels too selfish to have a kid now. i know him and that will never change so i'm at a loss for what to do. i've told him i don't think it's fair for him to be the only one who gets to say when we start a family - he's just the most stubborn person you will ever meet! god love him.

Ashley, Married to Mike since

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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 4:32am

Hi!

I'm Ashley 22, engaged to my fiance Thomas, 27. I am in a very similar position. We are definitely waiting until after the wedding but I would be ready to start trying right after. We bought our flat this past spring, he has a good job, we go on lots of vacations, etc. But like your hubby Thomas just isn't ready to spend a little bit less time with friends, going out, etc. So right now my goal is our first wedding anniversary or earlier. I know that with him these changes can happen very quickly so I am not giving up hope that one day he wakes up and is ready to start trying.

I hope we can help to make your wait a bit easier here, and I look forward to seeing more of your posts:)




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Registered: 06-20-2008
Sat, 10-04-2008 - 2:44pm

Hi Ashley and welcome to WTT :D

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Sat, 10-04-2008 - 4:13pm

hi ladies, thanks for the welcome! i look forward to hearing more from all of you and getting to know you. so a little more info on us is, i'm a photographer and DH is a probation agent for the county we live in.

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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 10:12pm

Hi again Ashley,


I work in the IT field but I'm currently going for my Masters in Elementary Education so I can become a teacher! DH is also in grad school and we will both graduate next year. We are waiting to start trying until May so that I would have the baby a few months after I graduate. We're not sure yet if I'm going to go back to work PT or FT right away.


Your DH will come around in his own time. I used to worry that my DH was never going to get used to babies but it just sort of happened on its own. You'll find that these boards are a great place to let out your frustration. :-)


Christine


PS - I do photography, too! For me it's just a hobby

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 12:59pm

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