Hello all! I am Ashlee. I am not sure if
Hi and welcome to the board! Sounds like you are in the right place! Deciding to Try is also great!
I must ask you, have you and hubby agreed on having kids before getting married? Although your friend got honest with you and your hubby, I'm a bit shocked at what he said. Not all men dislike curvy women by the way and many pregnant women display a lovely pregnancy glow. There's no chance to reach the baby's head, that's a bit silly!
Your friend Tom is an A$$. Plain and simple. He wasn't married - but when you marry someone, you marry them regardless of their weight. How shallow. Many men (and I dont' know if your husband is one) find pregnant woman to be very sexy. Have you not heard all the "glowing" comments about pregnant women?
Every experience is different - you need only look at the pregnancy birth stories on this website to see that. You don't know how your body will change. For me, pregnancy levelled out my hormones and made my skin flawless. You don't know that all the changes will be necessarily bad...in my experience, sex was so much better when pregnant and even now is better. You and your husband are also only getting Tom's side of the story. His x-gf could be having trouble losing the weight bc she is depressed the father of her child is such an a-hole ;-)
You are in the right spot:) It sounds like your husband's friend has some problems but that doesn't mean your hubby will- I think it is very hard for anyone to imagine what it will be like during pregnancy, and your husband making jokes doesn't have to mean anything. I would however have a serious talk with him about TTC and when he pictures having a child.
Can't wait to see more of your posts!