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|Thu, 04-07-2011 - 1:43pm|
hi my name is Lucy I am 23 years old and My DF name is Phil also 23. we are getting married April 30th so a few weeks to go. we have been together for 5.5 years. we want boys and it has been a long standing joke that we will only get girls since we want boys, he is kind of terrified of girls, bad experience with sisters. so the biggest question with a new marriage is when are you going to start a family. my response has been i am not sure it will happen when it happens. a while ago DF and I talked about me finishing school and maybe waiting til about 25 to have kids, but over the weekend he told me he doesn't want to wait anymore that we should start trying after the wedding. I said that was great but the more I think about it I start panicking. I am just getting used to the idea of being married let alone start a family. I don't think we can afford it but then again that saying goes you can never afford kids, if you wait until you can afford it it will be too late. I know its not going to happen on the first try i don't think but it just kind of freaks me out because I just got excited about traveling together more and buying a house and I feel so bad about not being ready because he is, he doesn't even care now if we have a girl or not. I don't know any advice? anyone been through this before? I have just been thinking about getting married for so long i guess i never really wanted to think about what would happen afterward.