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Tue, 04-22-2003 - 9:03am
I've been lurking here for a while so I decided I think I should introduce myself. My name's Laura. My DH and I have been married for almost a year and I have major baby fever but he doesn't. I'm two years older than he is. I've finished my BA and my MA and this is my second year teaching. So I think it's only natural that I should feel ready at this point. I've finished my education and reached my career goals. The problem is DH is still in college. Right now I'm the only one working. He'll graduate in September but he's not quite sure what he wants to do on the job front. He's even talked about going back to get an MBA at some point. In any case, he wants to be settled with a good job and a house before we have any kids. I do too. In fact, I want to be a stay-at-home mom (hopefully) so we have to wait until he has a good job. The problem is the waiting is just sooo hard. My DH has ADD and school is very hard for him. I'm so proud of him that he has come as far as he has. But anyway, school is very stressful for him and I feel like whenever I talk to him about this I'm stressing him out further. He says all he wants is for me to be happy and it hurts him so much that he can't make me happy about this.

Anyway, I just wanted to introduce myself and vent a little.

Laura WWT #1 ?

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In reply to: laura62002
Tue, 04-22-2003 - 9:25am
Welcome to the board Laura! Hopefully you can find some solace in the other amazing women that are on this board. Waiting is no fun and we can certainly sympathize with that! Vent away!!!


Kristin WTT#2 07/03

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In reply to: laura62002
Tue, 04-22-2003 - 9:26am
Welcome, Laura! You're in the right place (but I guess you knew that, you lurker, you!) It's great to have you here!

Sarah

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In reply to: laura62002
Tue, 04-22-2003 - 9:28am
Welcome to the Waiting Room, Laura! I am sorry that you and your DH are in different places on the issue of kids, that's hard. My issue with my DH is that he keeps changing his mind, we have one child already and depending on the week, my DH is interested or not, in having #2. I have baby fever horribly and really want to have #2 before #1 gets too much older, he will be 2 this coming weekend.

Welcome and jump in anytime, we're glad to have you!

JenP - WTT#2, Sept. 2003

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In reply to: laura62002
Tue, 04-22-2003 - 9:36am
Welcome Laura! It sounds like you and DH have good heads on your shoulders. Having ADD is tough. It's wonderful to hear he is one of the success stories.

Yvonne (TTC #2 7/03)

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In reply to: laura62002
Tue, 04-22-2003 - 10:41am
Welcome to the board. I don't really have any advice, but we're glad to have you here.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: laura62002
Tue, 04-22-2003 - 12:59pm
Welcome, Laura! Good to have you here! ~Jen
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In reply to: laura62002
Tue, 04-22-2003 - 11:16pm
Welcome, Laura! I know how hard that waiting is! This is a great place to vent frustrations and get support. My DH and I have been married almost two years, and we're both working on our bachelors degrees. We're going to start trying in December. I have decided to put off graduate school to have kids because I really can't wait much longer. It sounds like you have a perfect plan, and congratulations on finishing school! Your husband sounds like a great guy. I have had some of the same problems with my DH. I think it takes a while for the baby stuff to not stress them out. I just try not to talk about it too much, and let him just think about it on his own. Good luck, and keep posting!

queenie

WTT #1 December 2003

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Registered: 04-22-2003
In reply to: laura62002
Wed, 04-23-2003 - 9:01am
Thanks so much for the welcome. It means a lot.

Laura