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Fri, 07-16-2010 - 11:40am

Hello everyone. I apologize that this is so long....I used to be a lurker to this board but since DH and I have finally had the discussion, I decided join. :)

We have a 7 month old son, Liam (12/05/09) and when he was about 3 months old, my husband make a remark about trying for another one. I was like, "are you joking or being serious" he paused and said "I don't know"....So we decided to wait to have the conversation. We agreed we wouldn't bring it up until Mid-September (Liam will be 9 months and we will have just gotten back from our vacation that I really didn't want to be pregnant during)

Well, jumping ahead to a few weeks ago, we get the ball rolling on me going back to school. I've decided on a career change and am now enroll full time in evening classes and stay home with Liam during the day. When we were going through this process, DH said "well, I guess we'll have to put off having another baby until you graduate" I graduate in December 2011, Liam will have just turned 2. So we decided to push back the decision for a year, around August 2011. That way, if we decide the time is right, I'll only have a few months left of school and it may take that long to get pregnant anyways.

I'll admit I was a bit bummed at first as I really would've enjoyed having them be about 18 months apart, I think. But now that I think about it I think it is a good idea, for a couple reasons:

1) I won't have to go through school being uber pregnant (I did that when pregnant with Liam and it was hard)

2) A 2 year age gap isn't bad and it's still pretty close....my older brother and I are 2 1/2 years and altho we fought, we have a lot of the same memories and friends whereas my younger sister is 4 years younger than me and constantly felt left out and has completely different memories. Same with my DH and his brother who are more than 5 years apart...they don't get along hardly at all. We just know we want them at least 1 year apart but no more than 3, if we can help it

3) Financially, we will be better off. When we got pregnant with Liam, I was working full time, we were renting a big house by the University (and renting a room to a friend to help with bills) and we were paying off credit cards and student loans and were about a year from being able to buy a house. Well, I got pregnant, got laid off and our roommate decided she was gonna move out earlier than expected. Now, we're living on DH's income alone, I'm a stay at home mom and we moved into a smaller place. So, the house-buying plans are on hold until we clear some more debt and save more...but I can't complain too much as our small townhouse is much better than the big (expensive) house by the University so living expenses were literally cut in half :D

Anyhoo- thanks for making it this far! I guess my whole point is...we are WTT! :D

~Kyla

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In reply to: kylalili
Fri, 07-16-2010 - 12:47pm

Hi Kyla! Welcome to our board!

I'm Victoria, 29 and DH and I are WTT our first! We too would love to own our first home before we have children, and I need to lose weight on top of getting physically ready for pregnancy.

Feel free to join a WTT buddy group! I'm looking forward to getting to know you!



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In reply to: kylalili
Sun, 07-18-2010 - 8:56pm
Hey we will probably TTC around the same time. Our son David has the same birthday as yours 12/5/09 and we are waiting until he is around 2 to TTC #2. We didn't want our kids close together as my dh and his sister are 14 months apart and he didn't want that at all. Plus we thought that was a good age gap. Hoping to TTC shortly after he turns 2 if not maybe a little before but skipping March as we don't want 2 December babies.
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In reply to: kylalili
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 3:42pm

Welcome to the board Kyla! So it looks like you might be WTT until next summer or fall? If so, it looks like we'll be in the boat (although I'm waiting until next August to try for our first)!

I'm Jay, 26, soon to be married to DF, 27. Like I said, we're WTT for our first next summer. I'm looking forward to seeing you around the board!

 
 
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In reply to: kylalili
Mon, 07-19-2010 - 8:03pm

Hi Kyla! Welcome!


My name is Michele and DH and I are WTT #3 in spring of 2011. I don't think the 2 year age gap is too big, at all. We also planned to have #1 and #2 18 months apart, but it didn't work out that way -- it surprisingly took 1 yr TTC #2! They are 27 months apart.


I look forward to getting to know you!




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In reply to: kylalili
Tue, 07-20-2010 - 12:20pm

Welcome Kyla! I'm Clair, 26 living in California and WTT for our first until we are "ready" Dont really have a date as of right now we are shooting for. Even though we arent trying, I just got off the Pill for the first time since I was 18! I had been on a new one for six months that had made me have HORRIBLE skin breakouts and I had gained weight, so I finally got fed up with side effects and my husband and I decided to use condoms instead and also do the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) and so far I am loving it and am very happy!

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