Pushing back the date

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Pushing back the date
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Wed, 03-23-2011 - 11:39am

My husband and I have decided to try at the end of the summer, but now that it is getting closer, I am wanting to push back the date.

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Wed, 03-23-2011 - 2:25pm
It's totally understandable to want to feel more financially secure! I too am scared about having a baby. As much as I have baby fever, I know it will be a huge life change and I want to make sure I am ready for it!

So if you feel comfortable waiting longer, go ahead! You'll enjoy TTC better as you'll have less stress to worry about! :)

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Wed, 03-23-2011 - 8:47pm
Great point thank you!
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Sun, 03-27-2011 - 9:06pm
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Mon, 03-28-2011 - 10:50pm
I totally get where you're coming from. There are so many things about the present time with my husband, now that it's just the two of us, that I know I'm going to miss a lot when we have children. There have been a few days when I've thought to myself about maybe waiting just one more year so that when we return to the States, we have one more year as a couple before a little one joins our family. At the same time, there are always going to be reasons to wait just another year or two or five or ten. Part of it might be a fear of the unknown but part of it could also be just a desire for things to stay as nice as they are right now. For me, both are definitely true.

But when I really really think hard about waiting until Summer 2012 or ever longer to start trying, the feeling I get then is all I need to know that I'm ready for whatever happens right now, and waiting another year will just be torture. If I had to do it, I would, but if I didn't have to, I'd jump at the chance to start trying now -- I'm just ready to be a mom. It's different for every person, and every couple. I think you and your DH are on the right track to work it out together, and continue to think about it as the time comes -- there are still a few months away before you start trying. Not only that, it might help to remember that TTC can take a while, and then there are another 9 months of being pregnant after that. That alone helps me to remember that my alone time with DH doesn't end with the BFP -- we will still have plenty of time to savor alone before a baby comes.

Hope this helps, and good luck making your decision when the time comes!
 
 
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Tue, 03-29-2011 - 1:00pm
Amen to that, Jay! I couldn't have said it better!

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