Scared i might be pregnant - not ready

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Registered: 05-09-2002
Scared i might be pregnant - not ready
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Tue, 09-14-2010 - 8:12pm

Hi all,

I'm 34 and just got married in May so I guess it seems silly to say I'm not ready for a baby but I'm not sure if I want kids and not this soon that is for sure. I hope my email is appropriate here with all these details please accept my apology if not.

Well, long story short, after 17 yrs of being on the pill it was making me CRAZY with mood swings, etc., so I stopped taking it in June. My husband knows my fear is getting pregnant so we've been really careful, I'm one that obsessively took the pill on time.

After stopping the pill, I got my period exactly on time since so I know that means "fertility" more so than usual right now yikes! And my husband is gone alot so not ever even home when I'm ovulating, but he had an overnight in our town Saturday so I joined him in the hotel. Not to be too graphic, but for the first time ever we used the "pull out and pray" method and I didn't think anything of it really other than "let's never do this again and pack condoms ALWAYS".

Sunday I noticed one little spot of blood which was random and strange but thought "whatever". Last night I noticed my stomach was upset and cramps front and back and they have continued all day. I feel out of it and a little dizzy and my sense of smell is more engaged than usual. A co-worker had soup that smelled so good and then after my own lunch I almost got sick. Now all these things could be the flu, but my back just aches and I'm just tired and I've been peeing ALL THE TIME. Literally, right before I walk the dog, then I have to right when I get back in. And then suddenly I was like OMG. I know it is too soon and it sounds CRAZY but I've NEVER thought "oh no I'm pregnant" and I've never even taken a home preg test. Ever. So anyway, my husband thinks I'm crazy but I don't know....I just feel different. I then did the math and realized I was ovulating right around this weekend. (Oh and I get some cramps before my period, but only for a day before my period which isn't due for a few weeks yet.)

Just wanted to see if anyone else has gone through this when they were NOT TTC. If I was TTC I could see that maybe I was wanting it so bad that I was noticing all possible feelings as preggo, but I don't even want this. (Though if I am, I am.) I also wanted to introduce myself for the present or the future, depending on the next few weeks I guess. Thanks ladies and nice to meet you!

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 9:29pm

Hi, welcome to the board! I'm Victoria, your CL!

Your feelings sound very normal. I haven't gone through this so I'll let others chime in, but I pray that you are not PG so that you can TTC in time when/if you feel ready for a child!!

Come chat with us, we are a friendly group of ladies! :)



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Registered: 05-09-2002
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 10:31pm
Hi thank you for the welcome!! :)
I'm very fortunate I have a very loving husband who really wants to be a Dad someday. He schedule is so crazy I guess I would feel like a single Mom so that is part of it, but I guess I'll just wait and see. I'm glad I am preparing myself just in case. I'll count my blessings either way - after all we have people in the family that have been TTC for YEARS and can't, so if we did accidentally, I'll have to realize how fortunate we really are.
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Registered: 11-04-2009
Tue, 09-14-2010 - 11:16pm
That's good to hear! My husband has had crazy long and irregular hours for years and is trying to break the cycle by getting something different. I understand how that feels! Wishing you the best of luck.


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Registered: 04-29-2006
Wed, 09-15-2010 - 8:33am

Hi, welcome! My name is Becki and I'm WTT for my first.

I have definitely convinced myself of having weird symptoms before that could be pregnancy a number of times - nausea, etc, sometimes when I was excited at the prospect and others when my period was late and I was scared. Yours sound more a lot more real than mine did, though, from your description.

Good luck and keep us posted when you test, ok? I'm sorry about the current stress over the situation and I hope it works out for the best either way.

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Wed, 09-15-2010 - 12:11pm

Hi and welcome!



I have been in your situation a few times, but never ended up being pregnant (I chart my cycles and we don't use protection).



You said you think you ovulated this past weekend -- if that's the case, then it would most likely be too early to be experiencing symptoms directly related to pregnancy. Most of time implantation doesn't even occur until 6 days after ovulation (give or take). Even after implantation, it takes another day or two for your HCG levels to rise, which is what causes pregnancy symptoms.



Keep us posted!



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Registered: 05-09-2002
Sat, 09-18-2010 - 8:47am
Thanks all! I know it is still way too early to test and my husband is like "there is no way" so I'm starting to relax, but I still feel "weird". I'll keep you posted. I bought some tests for next week. If I was, I would stop drinking coffee immediately, etc., and we've been going out and partying harrder than usual, if I was for sure, I would be 100% super super healthy and taking care of myself (I'm really healthy as it is that is why I am worried LOL). I don't want to be, yet if I am I would own being good to it 100%. I will keep you posted it's only about 7 days past ovulation from my best guesstimate.