Sorry I have been MIA...

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Sorry I have been MIA...
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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 9:55pm
And Laney, thank you so much for thinking of me:) I have just been so busy lately girls, and sometimes I'm so tired that I just don't have the energy to post. I think I've kind of been avoiding the board a little because lately thoughts of babies have been getting me down--only because I can't start TTC yet. I MUST finish school! I did a degree audit the other day, and found out I only have FIVE classes left!!! So, March 2004 is the expected graduation date (because I can only take two classes per quarter). School is very frustrating this quarter. I have to do a group project and my goup is NOT very cooperative. It's all girls, and, well, you know how girls can be. I also have a research paper due this month, and I have a midterm on Monday, so I haven't been doing much except studying and working.

I hope everyone is doing great. I need to check out the other posts and see what I have been missing.

queenie, WTT #1 December 2003

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Mon, 05-05-2003 - 11:57am
There you are!! Good to hear from you Sweetie! Sorry you're so swamped lately. School sounds frustrating, but looks like you'll be done soon. Less than a year! I can't remmeber if you've talked about this before, but did you and DH talk about starting to try when you have 9 months to go till graduation? Is that a possibility?

I know how you feel needing a little break from the boards. I'm on a Male Factor (infertility) board too and sometimes there's good things happening, but mostly just sadness. And it really gets me in a negative mode! Not good!

Good luck with everything,

Laney

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Mon, 05-05-2003 - 2:24pm
Hey, girlfriend! Nice to see you again! Things sure have been busy, but that's great that you're down to only five classes! You do have less than a year--it'll fly by! I hope that you can come play with us more often!

Sarah

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Mon, 05-05-2003 - 11:02pm
I have thought A LOT about TTC when I have just nine more months of school to go, BUT if we were to have a baby right after I graduate, more than likely DH would not have the job yet to support the three of us, so that would mean the baby would have to be in daycare, and I just don't want that. DH STILL doesn't know when he will be graduating, and he has been in school a year longer than I have. He really should be graduating right now. I get kind of resentful of him sometimes, and I know I shouldn't. I think he's doing the best he can, but I get upset when I think about the fact that we COULD be TTC right now if he would have graduated on time. It looks like I will probably be graduating before him. He doesn't even know what classes he still needs to take! Grrrrrr! He really frustrates me!

And there are other factors too. The thought of being REALLY pregnant, working full time, AND going to school doesn't seem like it would be the healthiest pregnancy. I want to have time to eat right, exercise, and relax while I'm in the later part of my pregnancy, which is why I thought December would be a good time to TTC. If I get pg right away I will only be going to school during my first trimester...hmmm...well, maybe November would even be a good time to start TTC. I keep trying to find excuses to move the date closer LOL! If I get pg right around then, nine months later DH SHOULD be in a position to get a better job. Am I analyzing this too much?

Anyway, what do you think? Does this sound like a good plan, or am I being too analytical about this baby stuff? Maybe we should just start TTC now!! Shhhhh...don't tell DH I said that:)

queenie, WTT #1 November or December 2003 (or maybe sooner;)

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Wed, 05-07-2003 - 10:58am
I think you make some very good points. You are being very smart Queenie! I'm 110% with you on the daycare thing. There's no way I'm putting my baby in daycare either. And about being very pregnant while still working, finishing school... that's probably not a good idea. And what if they put you on bedrest?

My DH frustrates me too sometimes. He was working on getting his MBA through University of Pheonix Online but now he's stopped to concentrate on his home business. And he's doing really well at the business but sometimes I wish he would've stuck with the MBA because already having a good job, the MBA would only make it better. His home business may or may not take off really big. Tell your DH to get his act together or your online pal is going to come regulate!

But really, it sounds like you have a good plan worked out and Nov/Dec is really not too far away! You'll see, in just a couple months we'll see Xmas stuff going up and then you'll know that ttc is super close!

~Laney ttc#1

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Wed, 05-07-2003 - 10:06pm
Thanks for being so supportive, Laney. DH gets REALLY upset when I try to talk to him about school stuff. I told him he should take a couple classes online this summer to get caught up, and he got pretty ticked. I will keep trying to have a positive attitude.

Hey, how is bd going so far (wink, wink)?

queenie

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Thu, 05-08-2003 - 10:11am
Any time Girl! I'm here for ya!

BD so far... well AF is due today and then we'll BD like crazy around estimated ovulation time. Just hope my cycles stay regular. Thanks for asking!

~Laney

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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 4:05pm
Queenie-

I totally understand wanting to wait until closer to the end of school. I will be graduating in June and last year my DH and I decided we would begin trying in Octobeer (2002). My husband though had to move for work for a period of time and we were apart so we decided it wasn't the best time to start tyring. He moved home in January and we decided that it would be best to wait unitl I was done with school before beginning to try. I am so so glad we have done this too. School this last term is keeping me so busy. I can't imagine being pregnant at the same time. It's frustrating because I was wanting to have the baby right around when I graduated, but I'm still really glad I waited. Finishing school is so important to me and I think now about what I would have done if I had needed to be on bedrest or morning sickness during a midterm. I just want you to know that the last bit of school will go really quickly and although it can be hard to wait, just know that you will have a happier, healthier, less stressful pregnancy because you waited.

Melinda WTT 8/03

 

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