Starting to obsess... WTT#4

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Registered: 09-24-2009
Starting to obsess... WTT#4
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Sat, 12-08-2012 - 9:16pm

I just can't help it. I love my family so much, I just don't feel like it is complete. I feel like we are supposed to have another baby. I want a big family, always have. My husband wants to wait. We have settled on waiting until we move in to our new house (6 days, yay!), get settled, paint, do some little remodeling projects and buy new furniture. Hopefully it will be only a few months but who knows. Our kids are 8,4, and 20 months. Logically I want to wait also... I would like to spend one on one time with my 20 month old (Presley) when my 4 year old (Mackenzie) goes to Kindergarten next fall. For some reason I just can't get my mind off of the subject. It's all I can think about! I'm a Christian, but not a super religious person and I'm starting to feel like God wants me to have a big family... I was meant to be a Mom. I love it so much. It's VERY hard to wait. 

Anyone else starting to obsess?

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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 12:19am

DH only ever wanted two.  I wanted six; I figure four is the median so it's a good compromise.  :)  His biggest worry is that he won't have the energy for four, since he already struggles with three.  Was your DH tough to convince, or was he always on board with four?  What are his worries, if any?  How did you guys get around them?

As to the bedrooms...we have five bedrooms and all three boys share a room.  It works really well for us, except that the two youngest wake each other up in the mornings.  They like the company at night.  One of the other bedrooms is a quiet playroom, for whoever wants to play by himself, and then we have a spare bedroom, one for the nanny, and ours, of course.  Once the boys are older we plan to split them up into the upstairs bedrooms or put them all together in the big bedroom downstairs, and turn one of the bedrooms into an office.  I'd also like to have a quiet space for homework.

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Thu, 01-31-2013 - 2:10pm
Sorry that your DH is tough to convince, is there any particular reason he doesn't want more kids? I get pregnant super easy as well. I have an IUD though and that has worked for us, I've used it in between each baby. I'm ridiculous though because I still hope that I accidentally get pregnant every single time, haha. You are not alone! We are now in our new house but we settled on 4 bedrooms instead of 5 once we fell in love with a house. It has a room upstairs that we are using as a "man cave" that could be easily converted to a 5th bedroom if we ever needed it but we have gotten used to having it now and I'd hate to do that. My BIL has lived with us since their Mom passed away and he is only 19. He is going to college nearby and probably will live with us for awhile. Who knows, he can live with us forever if he wants :) Now I'm wondering what we were thinking settling on 4 bedrooms. That makes us not have a room for another baby until he moves out :( I don't know what to do about that. I know we could always share a room with the baby and then let the baby share with it's siblings when it is older but I am not into doing that. I love to have the nursery. I know that seems silly, I doubt it would really matter much but for some reason it seems like a problem. Part of me wants to wait a year but it's very difficult to fight the baby fever!!

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Thu, 01-31-2013 - 1:57pm
I would like to have a winter baby since we have May, July, and September birthdays already. Truthfully, I probably won't care too much when the time comes. If everything else is in place for us to start trying I can't imagine that anything would get in my way, lol.

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Registered: 05-04-2011
Sat, 01-12-2013 - 4:41pm

Oh, yeah.  It's all I can think about, especially now that I think I'm ovulating.  DH is going to be tough to convince, though, since he was done at 2.  That said, I've had six pregnancies, five of which were protected accidents, so I still think my chances of getting lucky are pretty good!  I'm one of those girls who gets pregnant reeeeeeally easily.  That doesn't make it easier to stop obsessing, either, because using b/c doesn't seem to guarantee that I won't get pregnant...I'll be holding my breath every time I expect my period from now on.

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Thu, 12-13-2012 - 3:05pm
It's so easy to get obsessed, isn't it? I'm not quite there, but considering that I can't make up my mind on whether to have another probably puts me in the obsessed category. Obviously if I didn't have some, I wouldn't be so conflicted! It would be nice for you to spend some time with your youngest. Are you going to try for a specific season when you do get to TTC?

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Sun, 12-09-2012 - 6:23pm

This is the place to obsess!!

I know I'm not obsessed over the next one, but my baby fever was BAD with #1! Hopefully the time passes quickly for you!