for all of your advice ladies. You brought up some really good points, and also made me think about some things. DH and I haven't even hinted to MIL and FIL that we're thinking of starting a family. I think it really bothered me that they assumed that we were not. I'm scared to tell them. I'm afraid that I won't want to hear what they have to say about it. I guess I was planning on waiting until we're actually pregnant before we tell them anything. DH and I don't have a very close relationship with MIL and FIL. If I told you exactly why it would become a very long story. It's a long story that all began when MIL was very angry with us for moving out and living together before we were married (she is VERY religious). I think I may have some pent up anger about the way she made me feel when she was so against what we were doing, and we've had some other bumps along the way. We were told we were not allowed to get married in her church for that reason, yet SIL got married in that same church when she was pregnant! There are all kinds of little things they have said and done that have made me feel like I can never be close to them. Sometimes MIL can be really sweet, and then she'll turn around a make a comment that is really offensive and judgemental... I guess this is probably for the in-law board, but they have already heard all of this. My SIL is a very evil person who is jealous and spiteful of me, and the fact that MIL and FIL are blind to it just exacerbates the problems I have with them.
I think I got a little off track there, but what do I do if I don't really want MIL and FIL to know we are going to TTC? I feel like if they really wanted more grandkids they would have already asked when they are going to get some. I don't expect them to be thrilled to find out we want to have a baby soon. I think if they would be, they would constantly be asking if and when.
So, to answer your question, no, we haven't told them about starting a family. And I don't know that we ever will.