Things to consider before TTC #2....

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Things to consider before TTC #2....
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Fri, 01-01-2010 - 8:27pm

I used to be CL of this board a couple of years ago! :)


I'm Rebecca (35) and DH (29) and we have 1 DS - 17 months old. We are WTT until June 2010 for #2.


If you are WTT/TTC #2 or more (or already have 2 children or more), please advise on the issues that I need to be thinking about before TTCing #2.


A few I have already thought about:


Moving DS into a big boy bed OR buying a new crib.
Moving DS's room - his room is the best location for a nursery.

TIA!


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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 8:13am

Potty training: Hoping that we will be potty training or almost potty trained (at least during the day?) by the time baby #2 arrives. DS will be almost 3 IF we get PG right away. I know to expect some regression.


Good luck with starting potty training when DD is 18 months. My DS is 17 months and he is nowhere ready. But I have read that girls are easier to PT than boys. Does she go to DC?

babies
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 8:20am

Yes, I know he will almost be 3 years old!!! OMG!

babies
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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 3:44pm

Ha, it may be a pipe dream about the PTing, but that's my plan anyway. I sat her on the potty once and she cried, so I'm going to wait a LoooNg time before attempting it again.

We have a vacation planned for May, so I guess after that, although I'm sure it will take me until at least Fall or later since it took me 6 months w/DD.

It's fun to think about though! Do you have names picked out? How long does it usually take you to get pregnant?

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Sun, 01-03-2010 - 4:03pm

I have only tried to get PG once and that was with DS. I got PG on the 2nd cycle of TTC.

babies
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Registered: 11-25-2002
Mon, 01-04-2010 - 8:32pm

Ha, if you're quick, you're quick!

I'm getting excited now :)

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Registered: 05-11-2005
Fri, 01-08-2010 - 9:35pm

Hi Rebecca :) I remember you

I know my considerations include whether my DH will be around or not (damn Navy).

I also want to try and get my DD started on potty training.

We also need more space and are trying to move into a bigger place.

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Mon, 01-11-2010 - 10:35am

I remember you also :)

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 12:40pm

Hi Rebecca! I'm not sure if you remember me or not, but I had my DS a few months after you and named him the same as your DS! I'm Lisa (31) and my DH is 44.


Before my DS was born, DH and I were dead set on only having one, as he has 3 other kids from his 1st marriage and we have joint custody of them so it's already a full house! Then DS came along and I'm so in love with that little boy and our family just doesn't feel complete. I want him to have a sibling closer to his age since the oldest half sibling is 6 years older (and the oldest is 12 years older!). So we're thinking we will TTC #2 around May/June of this year - DH isn't getting any younger (neither am I for that matter).


The things that I'm thinking about/concerned about are:


1. I work FT and DS is in daycare. It's subsidized by DH's work so it's really cheap but will I be able to handle having 2 to get ready in the morning? Also, I feel like I miss a lot of work because DS gets sick - what will happen with 2??


2. Can I handle the lack of sleep again? I'm sure I can but the thought of it makes me want to cry!


3. How do you handle nap schedules? Will I ever be able to get anything done on the weekends?? Also, how will I handle outings with 2 kids by myself when DH travels?


4. Where the heck would I put another kid?! We have a 5 BR house and each kid has his/her own room. Another baby would mean 2 of them have to share again and that won't go over well....of course its only for a few years until the oldest goes to college but still...


5. College savings - my parents are paying for DS's college but this is under the assumption that we were only having 1 - I'm not going to ask my parents to pay for kid #2 (although I'm sure they will want to) so I need to make sure we have enough saved for both kids.


For some reason this is scarier than the first time to me! Maybe because I know what I'm getting myself into?!?!

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Tue, 01-12-2010 - 1:17pm

Hi!

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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 9:29pm
Caroline will be 2 next month. How is your little one doing?
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