Tired of waiting

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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 3:38pm
Is anyone else tired of waiting to try. I feel like I'm obsessed with wanting to be pregnant and I feel like it's partly because I have to wait. A few days ago, I finally made a long list of things I need to do before becoming pregnant. I look at this when I start to obsess but I can't look at it all the time. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get the idea of having a baby off my mind?

I'm confused too because when I fantasize about being pregnant and having a baby, it all seems wonderful. The other day though I was thinking about it more realistically and became kind of scared about the what ifs. Does anyone else ever feel like this?

Melinda WTT 8/03

 

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Sat, 05-10-2003 - 8:17pm
Melinda, I feel how you're feeling some of the time and at times I too don't know what to do about it. How could I possibly make time go faster or go by without thinking about becoming pregnant? Those feelings you feel about being scared, in a recent posting I said the same thing. I'm on my last cycle before I try (next month) and I get these shivers, because of what's to come when/if I do become pregnant. What happens if I don't get pregnant, what will my emotions be then and will I be able to handle all of that.

I can only tell you that you should enjoy these moments before trying and just make this time your own. What is it that you want to do for yourself? Now that the weather is nice get out and walk and reflect. I've been doing this lately and it's been wonderful. Granted I do think about being pregnant, but it's more peaceful thoughts.

I hope that things go well with you and the summer does go by fast so August will be here before you know it.

Tammy

WTT #2 06/03

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Sun, 05-11-2003 - 10:05am
Melinda, I have those same feelings....the ones where you are excited about being pg and having a baby, but then get scared when you really sit and think of the realistic parts of having a baby ;-D I do the same thing. I just always tell myself that those feelings are coming from a fear of change, and the unknown. I've never raised a kid before! haha. And, to get the thought of "waiting" out of my head (which heaven knows I really have to concentrate on now!) I busy myself with one of those "to-do" things on my list. My biggest one right now is getting all my pictures caught up on scrapbooking and organizing the ones I don't scrapbook into albums. Leaving home and shopping and letting my creative side take over my brain really helps push those thoughts out, and knowing I'm that much closer to having one of my goals done makes me feel good!

 

           
Jlynn, Momma to Asher and Ada

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Sun, 05-11-2003 - 11:51pm
Tammy and jlynna12-

Thank you guys so much for the advice. I'm in school right now and will be finishing in about 5 weeks. It's what should be on my mind, but sometimes it becomes too much and I have to think about something else, that's when babies come into my mind. From there I can't stop thinking about babies. What I am going to try to do is focus on school, because until I finish with school we can't start trying (my rule). The summer is coming soon and I love to camp and hike and be outdoors, which occupies my mind and lifts my spirits. I hope to get to know everyone here better over the next few months.

Melinda WTT#1 8/03

 

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 9:15am
Melinda, good luck keeping occupied :-D Always know we're here if you are having a bad day! :-D

jlynn

 

           
Jlynn, Momma to Asher and Ada

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 11:47am
I understand how you are feeling Melinda. I'm also WTT until 08/03 and I think about starting a family a lot. Sometimes I just want to be trying right now and it seems like the end of August is a long time off. I'm just trying to stay busy and telling myself the time will go by faster than I think. Reading this message board helps me a lot because I know a lot of other people are in the same boat as me. It is just hard when you know a lot of people that are pregnant and everywhere you look you seem to see pregnant women around you. I just have to be patient and know my time with be coming in the future. I hope the next couple of months go by fast for you.

Amy WWT 08/03

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 5:33pm
(((Melinda)))...I can relate! The only thing worse that WTT is TTC and not getting pregnant the FIRST cycle. Wanting a baby is just plain TOUGH, LOL! But really, the feelings you describe are completely normal. I'm having #3 and after three babies worth of TTC, it never got any easier to WTT and TTC! But all wanting aside, having a baby is a BIG change so you should almost expect mixed feelings about the subject. We TTC for six cycles before finally becoming pregnant with #3 (which seemed long to us b/c our first two were concieved on cycle 1) and I was SOOO happy to be pregnant and so focused on becoming pregnant that it was a while after the test was positive that I realized I was having a BABY. LOL! It's such an emotional subject that we're allowed to be all over the place with it! ((hugs))

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Mon, 05-12-2003 - 6:27pm
Melinda, I too am wtt #1 Aug/03! I also have those fantasies and sometimes get this twinge of happiness and excitement! But then I'll get kinda scared that it will take longer than I think. But I try not to focus on that and try to stay positive and cherish these last few months w/my dh. I will also get a twinge of sadness-becoming very sentimental, realizing that this is the last time dh and I will spend together, just the two of us. I will miss that but then I think of that baby that's not even created yet and the excitement for that comes rushing back! I am also having dreams now and then of having a baby. So far I've had both a boy and girl. Those dreams are so cool! Just know that we support you and are excited for you and that I am going thru the exact same thing, so you are not alone! You can always come here to get out your frustrations and worries. We'll be here for ya! =)

Jenny

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Tue, 05-13-2003 - 10:53am
I am hating the wait!!! I am WTT#2 and have been ready to try for quite some time now, but life has thrown a few bumps in our path. I think about wanting to get pregnant and wanting another child every single day and am not a patient person. I worry about being pregnant with a toddler at home and about my ability to handle two kids, but I think it's normal (and healthy) to have these fears.

So, I have totally empathy for you!

JenP - WTT#2, Sept 2003

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 10:37am
Melinda, Good to see you do have a plan to keep busy. It's even alright to come back on this board again and say you're having a bad day or week (sometimes in my case). It's bound to happen, but the good thing about it is that there are women on this board that can help! It's sometimes just good to talk about it on the board, because your friends may not understand. I know my relatives and friends don't know, so there is only here to come to.

Tammy

WTT #2 06/03 1st preg