unsure about children
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|Mon, 05-24-2010 - 7:20pm|
I'm 26 years old, in graduate school and working a full-time job. I've been dating my current boyfriend for 4 months but we've been close friends for almost 15 years. He really is the love my life, but recently we stumbled upon a topic of children that's made him say our relationship is worth his time anymore.
He knows he definitely wants children one day. I've never considered it. I've always been more concerned with my education and trying to get a stable career and I never gave marriage or kids much thought at all.
The thought of having a child scares the s**t out of me, to be honest. I've never spent much time around babies. I held one once and couldn't wait to hand him back over because I thought I was going to accidentally hurt him. I don't mind spending time with children 4+ if they aren't spoiled jerks.
I have no idea what to do about all this. It really hurt to hear that he would throw our relationship/friendship away because of this. I know it's an important issue, but it's one that I haven't given much thought to at all. My knee-jerk reaction is to say, "I don't want kids," but it's really just never been a thought in my mind.
Any advice anyone can give me would be appreciated. Thanks!