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Thu, 04-29-2004 - 1:32pm
Hi all,

Just thought I'd update you on whats going on here. Well, DH finally got a job (woohoo!!). A very well paying one at that. Finally, after a year of sending out resumes and interviews, one finally came out! What a relief. This means we can move out June or July. (I'm spending a chunk of May with my brother). We're going to wait to finish paying off our bills, make sure we're on track and then, freedom once again. Ugh four months with your parents is so tough! I just can't wait to have a steady stream of income again. :)

I have decided there's no way I want to get pg before I lose muchos poundage. I'm on a prescription weight loss drug and am down 13 pounds. Have many more to go, but I KNOW by next spring break, I will be in a bikini! DH and I have already agreed my first purchase is going to be the most expensive bikini I can find (well, find it my small town which means it'll top out at $100) and I will wear that baby so proudly! :) I have never really bought a bikini before, but with my hard work and determination, I know I will have a sexy body. Darn it, I'm only young/childless once!

I only have a couple days of classes left. Woohoo. Then relaxation week, graduation parties, and then I leave to Tennesee for two and half weeks. Come back for Memorial Day weekend (camping), two year anniversary, then we look for a place to live! Yay.

Well, everyone feel free to post an update. If you're new, feel free to introduce yourself!

Jamie

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Fri, 04-30-2004 - 5:01pm
hi Jamie,

Well we are getting more of the wedding plans down - set the menu for the "Tasting Luncheon" where we sample all the menu items we mght want - basically it will be a steak served between two pieces of salmon with a side of chicken, LOL. Seriously, we need to try all the main dishes (and have very few vegetarians attending), so it will be a meal that would make Dr. Atkins proud.

I have thought about going to a doctor (I just got new insurance) and, in addition to getting the regular physical, I'd like to have my, er, "feminine health" assessed. Seriously, I want to have a talk with an OB/GYN. Can they assess your fertility without invasive procedures? Since I'm turning 30, I'm on a timeline, and i want to know whether I should wait till 35 or 32, ya know? I keep hearing that 35 is some kind of death age where your eggs fall off the face of the earth, even though both my aunts had successful first pregnancies at that age or later.

Still scared of not being a successful singer. This has been a slow season, I 've had only one opera gig and that makes me feel like a loser. DF on the other hand has a callback for a manager, and lil old competitive me can't help but be envious, though not jealous in the evil green-eyed monster way. I am proud of his success - I just want the same!!

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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 10:05pm
Hi.

I bet you're getting excited about the wedding. LOL are you going to serve steak between salmon with a side of chicken? You'd definitely be in with the low carb crowd. I hope that goes well for you. Do you have the cake and everything picked out?

I can so understand the envious thing! Although of course you're proud because he's your sweetie, you'd also love to be getting the same results... Is it different between sexes? Do men usually have a better success rate?

This is the reason I'm so glad DH and I are in completely unrelated fields (my psychology, him technology)- I'm so competetive, I can't stand it when he does better than me (which he ALWAYS does :)). We made the mistake of taking a few college classes together... Ergh! :) LOL.

I'm not sure how far they can go as to testing your fertility if you haven't been trying. If you start charting or taking ovulation tests, you can check to make sure you're ovulating regularly. I really don't think you're little eggs walk off the face of the planet while you're celebrating you're 35th birthday. Everyone's different. You could ask your doctor at your next annual check up what you should be doing in preparation and what he/she can do for you at this time.

Good luck!

Jamie

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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:59pm
>>LOL are you going to serve steak between salmon with a side of chicken? >>

Oh lordy, no!! Just for the tasting luncheon - have to taste all the main dishes!!

Yeah I am excited about the wedding - it's hard not to drift completely into Bride mode. I also have a day job and my own auditions to attend to. But I really do enjoy the planning. We are going down to my hometown in 2 weeks to look at a bunch of stuff in person.

We did pick the cake: dark chocolate cake with raspberry cream and fresh raspberries, with a white buttercream frosting. It will be square tiers with vertical striping on the tiers and decorated with flowers and sugared fruit.

Yeah, it's true both of us being singers has the 'professional envy' drawback... but I've found there are a lot of pros to counter those cons. Like, the fact that he's supportive of the idea of me pursuing a career which would mean we might spend up to two months apart sometimes (most guys are not so understanding about this). We help each other network and refer each other for jobs. We can 'talk shop.' And it's just great to have someone know what I'm going through.

Honestly I think I could get the same kind of support from another type of performing arts person too (like film actor, dancer, director etc.) but oh well, I fell in love with Matt. Whaddya gonna do?! ;-)

And to answer your question, yeah, it's much easier for the guys. There are more roles in opera for guys: your typical opera has two lead female roles, two lead male roles, and lots of smaller roles for men. Smaller roles for women are mroe rare (managed to get one last year with a good company, yeah!), and small roles are a great way for a company to 'try you out' when you're young. Companies usually won't entrust a big role to anyone they perceive to be green, no matter how impressive the audition is. And add to this, the fact that there are fewer men who want to be singers, than women. So the law of supply and demand is very much on their side.

I had a director at a Young Artist Program (this kind of artist-in-residence thing where you sing chorus, udnerstudy, and gain contacts with a company for a season) who cautioned me not to audition for a certain really big company yet. His reasoning was, "if you were anything but a soprano - if you were a tenor singing at the level you do, I'd say go for it, they'd snap you up. But you're a soprano, and there are so many sopranos that you really want to be just about perfect before you audition for this company."

Hmmm, very encouraging.... not. But - knowing the odds hasn't stopped me yet.

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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 3:40pm
LOL I was just kidding about the entree. When I first read it, that's what I thought you mean, and then I started thinking "a SIDE of chicken" and reread. Just seemed kind of funny at the time.

You know, I absolutely loved being engaged. Planning the wedding was so fun. The couple of weeks before were quite hectic and stressful, but the day of the wedding it's all worth it. Everything we got accomplished felt so great. We didn't think we'd be able to find someone to marry us (we're both agnostic but I wanted something more personal then a justice of the peace, but it was hard for us to find a Chaplain), but finally succeeded with an ARMY Chaplain that was Southern Baptist. Boy, did we have to be on our best behavior. :) He was very nice in writing our ceremony, incorporating things we wanted, and understood though we have faith, it's not in one particular thing, so let us know very gently he wanted to add in a prayer as that was in his beliefs for the way he performs ceremonies. Worked for us!

Your cake sounds beautiful. And delicious. We made the mistake of having a different flavor for each tier. We were rather disturbed that our guests felt it was necessary to try each flavor. We were more doing it as a courtesy for people who didn't like one thing or the other, but the cake disappeared in no time and most of the family didn't get any (we ordered enough too!).

You know, that is wonderful that you and your hubby are able to share that and don't have to worry about boring the other with shop talk. It seems to have more pros than cons for you, which is great.

Actually, one of my goals to do within the next couple of years is to take a year and move to LA and try to break into acting (tv or film). I also understand that the odds will definitely not be in my favor, but it's a dream of mine and I figure it's better to try and fail than to wonder what if. My DH is in full agreement and we've discussed most of the ins and outs, but I know when we move there, it'll probably change a little. He won't really understand some of the stuff I'll be doing (many auditions, head shots, trying to get representation... well, you know all that stuff.. :) so we'll see. He's usually pretty supportive, but I agree that in something like performing arts, you really probably get more support from someone in the same field. My minor when I transfer to my new school will be Theater (acting), so I'll get a couple of years of experience before going. It's a liberal arts school with a very well reknown theater/program.

My DH can't complain to much - ever since we met he's like "You should be an actress. You are so dramatic." LOL. He encouraged me to pursue!

That's great that you guys are pursuing your dreams. It's kind of neat to "meet" someone like you, although our aspirations are different, in a lot of ways they parallel. I reallly hope things start to pan out more for you in your opera career.

Jamie

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