waiting is hard

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Registered: 03-23-2009
waiting is hard
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Mon, 03-23-2009 - 6:02pm

new here, i have 3 children and we want number 4 but we want to wait until my baby,

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 12:31am

Hi Kristy welcome!

I'm Rachel (23) and DH (26) and we are WTT for our first. We have been married for almost 6 years, and are just waiting on DH to feel like he is ready. Although we just decided that we really want to pay down some of our debt first. But I definitely know how you feel because we haven't set a specific date yet, but most likely sometime next year. A VERY large number of our friends are pregnant or recently have had children ( one is actually in labor as I write this) so the baby fever can be pretty intense. But now that we have a goal to focus on (debt) it makes it a bit easier. I hope that the baby bug eases up on you a bit :) .

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 8:52am
i always had a very strong urge to have children even as a little girl.. then i thought that when i had kids it would ease up.. nope.. i love having kids.. even though i get stressed out alot i think having a large family is wonderful and will be great when they grow up and come home for the holidays with a family of there own.. i know waiting is the right thing and its what i want but
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Registered: 01-15-2007
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 5:34pm

Oh I hear you, it's so hard! For me it was patiently waiting for DH to get on board. I've wanted another one since DD turned one (she's 4.5 now). She was a honeymoon surprise and we were NOT prepared when she was born, but we were able to make it and have improved our lives since... which is why I didn't understand his need to feel like we had to have all our ducks in a row before TTC#2.

I almost fell over when he talked about setting a date for TTC, after 3 years of resistance!

My friends all said they were impressed by my patience in waiting... other people they knew would have had an "oops" by now. But me, well, DD was a surprise and it was emotionally draining for both of us (more him than me since he was in school FT and working FT)... been there, done that... I decided it would be better to wait until we both felt ready. I'm actually very excited about it... It will be a whole new ballgame because this time around DH will be more emotionally invested, instead of detached and stressed about everything.

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