The waiting is the hardest part!

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Registered: 07-22-2010
The waiting is the hardest part!
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Thu, 07-22-2010 - 3:50pm

....Tom Petty song came to mind :)

I've been lurking on here for a month or so now, thought I'd venture out and introduce myself. It's getting harder and harder to wait!!

My name is Carlisa, I'm 25 and my husband David is 30. We've been together for 6yrs now. We bought a house 3yrs ago, then he finally proposed Christmas 2008. About 5mo later we got a common-law marriage certificate for school financial aid and tax purposes, but we still wanted a wedding. Unfortunately we were not able to afford a wedding and it was stressing me out, so we just decided to have a lil family picnic this yr and call it official.

When we first got together neither of us wanted kids at all. I have 3 much younger sisters and that was enough for me! Obviously my mind has changed :P David also said he never wanted to get married, and you see how that turned out. I started changing my mind a couple yrs ago but knew I didn't want kids just yet, brother-in-law was living with us and I wanted more time with just my husband. David has been a bit slower on the kid(s) thing, but I think he's about there too.

The main reason for still WTT is David's income. He had been looking for a better paying job for over a year, and finally started a new job a couple weeks ago. YAY!!! The hardest part now is waiting for that first paycheck and not knowing when or how much it will be or what he will average since it is still commission based. Hopefully we will be able to pay the bills a bit more comfortably enough to be able to start trying soon!

I would like to try and wait until Sept to TTC, but my baby fever keeps getting worse and worse!

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Registered: 09-24-2009
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:23am

Love Tom Petty :)


That's so great about your DH's job and TTC soon!!! Congrats!


Meagan

Lilypie Trying to Conceive 21 to 37 day cycle tickers

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Registered: 03-31-2009
Fri, 07-23-2010 - 12:55am

Hi Carlisa & welcome! I understand your pain as I know everyone does who's WTT. I've had the ups & downs where one minute I am confident that this is the time we change our minds to try, and then something always seems to happen to push it back.

I know it's especially hard because once you get that in your head, those lovely thoughts of being a mom and getting preggers, it's hard to put them on the back burner! I just keep trying to focus on the positives and take advantage of the time that I am not pregnant, and try not to get down on myself. But Tom Petty definately had it right..the waiting IS the hardest part! (But in the end, it's worth it!)

I can relate to the income situation. My SO and I deal with the same thing. When things seem to be stacking up and going in the right direction, we always seem to run into something that pushes our finances back but we both take it as a sign that it's just not the right time.

We're kind of at the jumping off point where we may venturing into the journey of TTC, right now I'm off BC and have taken a lot of steps to make sure I'm healthy enough to support a BFP if that were to happen, but we are not actively trying.

Hope that helps some, even if it's just a nice welcome!

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 9:36pm

Hi Carlisa!

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 5:18pm

Hi Carlisa! Welcome to our board!

I'm Victoria, 29, and DH and I are WTT our first! Waiting sure can be hard, and this board certainly helps! I hope you stick around!



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