Want to WTT #3, DH ready NOW

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Want to WTT #3, DH ready NOW
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 11:23am

Hi, my name is Kara. I hope I don't make anybody mad, I didn't know where else to post this. My husband and I have two wonderful kids and we want a third. Right now, the timing would be perfect because my schooling next year will be entirely online and our oldest daughter wouldn't be "too far apart" from our youngest, BUT...

I have always pictured myself having four kids. DH wanted two, so we decided to meet in the middle at three. He is SUPER EAGER to start trying right now for our third and final baby, but I feel like if I get pregnant right now, I won't feel done. I don't have baby fever because my son is still, in most respects, a baby. I'm afraid that if I don't wait until I am desperate for the last baby, I'll end up with serious baby fever again when that baby hits toddlerhood.

I don't know what to do. The timing really is right for my DH and my other kids, I just think it'll be really hard on me. I feel totally selfish, but I'm afraid those pregnancy/motherhood emotions will get the best of me.



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Registered: 10-01-2008
Thu, 04-23-2009 - 11:10am

Hi Kara,

You've come to the right place.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 2:51pm
after my son i thought another was just what i needed and yet now i feel like i have cheated him out of the great baby stage he was just 17 months when baby sister came in and took his spot as the new baby. if i were you i would wait till you are ready completely it is not selfish just smart. good luck!!

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 2:45pm

Would it work at all to tell DH that you can start trying now for number three, but that if you have serious baby fever later he should concede to having four? LOL!

Seriously though, if your DH is so desperate for another baby right now, I wonder if HE will feel done when number three gets a bit older?

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Registered: 04-03-2008
Wed, 04-22-2009 - 1:57pm

Hi Kara!!!

Wow- your children are beautiful:D

You posted this in just the right spot. I can really understand where you are coming fromand don't think it is selfish at all. In your position I would also want to wait until I really just couldn't stand it anymore as otherwise like you I would be very worried that I would have horrible baby fever a year or two later.

I'm Ashley and my husband Thomas and I are waiting until fall to start TTC for our first. I would also like to have 4 and we are just waiting to see how it goes before deciding. If we only have 3 I would like to space them 3 years apart just so I can really relish that baby time, otherwise 2 1/2 if we have 4.

I hope you have fun posting here with us!