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|Fri, 05-09-2003 - 9:25am|
Anyway, he then said that he's afraid that I would neglect him (kind of that I'm just a sperm donor and then I'll be tossed aside attitude). It really made me mad and I told him that hurt my feelings that he would say something like that and especially that he would believe it. He said that it was inevitable that I would neglect him.
Personally, I think that is an unfair argument. I can't prove to him until AFTER we have a baby that I won't neglect him and some days no matter how much I shower him with attention he still feels neglected. I've fixed pancakes four mornings out of the last five (he had homemade hashbrowns, eggs and ham that day) and he was all insulted and felt neglected because he had to eat cereal this morning with fresh strawberries sliced on it. I'm in the middle of having all these tests run for arthritis, fibromyalgia, etc. and he's feeling neglected because ONE freaking day out of the week he has to eat cereal?
To those of you who have children, how do you make sure you don't neglect your husbands? To those of you waiting to have kids, has this issue come up and if so, how did you handle it? I've been in a "funk" (DH's word, not mine) since our conversation because I just don't know what to say or do. I don't like to make promises I'm not sure I can keep and promising that I will never have to neglect him because of a baby doesn't seem do-able. DH is an only child and I've never thought he was a stereo-typcial spoiled brat only child like his mother, who is also an only child, but sometimes he pulls stunts like this and it just makes me crazy. Any advice or words of wisdom you can spare will be greatly appreciated. This has really been bugging me the last couple of days and I know with the weekend coming up, this conversation is likely to rear its ugly head again.