What do you do for baby fever?

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What do you do for baby fever?
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 1:50pm
How do you keep your desire for a baby from overwhelming you?


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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 2:39pm
I'm probably the only person on this board who doesn't get baby fever! Kinda weird, I know. I guess I'm still enjoying it being just my husband and I. Then again, my whole life I've never looked at kids as a "must-have" item, you know? Only after I met and subsequently married my husband did we both agree a kid might be nice. And even though I like walking through the baby sections of Wal-Mart, Target, etc. and I see stuff I think "OH that's cool! I'll have to get one of those", and when I see a cute baby I think "Aww, isn't he/she adorable? Hopefully my kid will be that well-behaved." I never feel a gut-ache (if that's what people feel?) that I'm missing something. Weird, I know.
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Sun, 02-21-2010 - 6:23pm
I know what you mean! When I think of a baby, I think of all the major responsibilities, and not just how cute a baby can be! I've always daydreamed about having kids all my life, but if I were to be pregnant today, I don't know how I would handle it! When the reality of it hits me, it makes me scared in a way...I've been a fun aunt, but not like my sister who doesn't want kids. I'm more like watching him like a mom.


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 1:34am

Right now I just think of the reasons why we need to wait:



  • Looking to buy a home

  • Want Roree to be potty training first

  • Need to make sure we're financially prepared for 2 little ones

Those are just the top 3 reasons ... and usually they hold me over. If my brain didn't work so well it would be really hard to overcome baby fever though. My heart beats "ba-by, ba-by, ba-by".


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 8:02am
My DD helps balance it out. Some days she drives me nuts! But I love her so. DH is also out of the country for work, and has been for 2 months almost. He should be back this weekend, so I have been alone with her and while I have baby fever it is not as strong when I am alone all day with DD. Though when he comes back I will have to watch it, lol. Also I am trying to lose some extra weight. I am under my preprego weight but it took me a long time to drop it. I am holding on to an extra 20lbs and I would love to lose it. I am currently on day 4 of 30 day shred. I am thinking about a late spring race to run...I have other things to distract me right now. I want to be pregnant but then I really want to drop another 10 lbs before I get pregnant again. That and waiting longer is more to what DH wants...
But I still look at baby sites, and cute little newborns.


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:09am
That is a great time, to just be a couple. Some days I think we rushed into having kids and should have had more time as a couple. That is a good thing to think of when you are trying to keep baby fever away. We don't have that anymore! I think a lot will change with another baby, but not as much as having a first child/pregnancy.


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:10am
Victoria, that feeling of being excited but also apprehensive will *NEVER* go away. There's always something to worry about. Things can be going great and you'll still worry. It is a lot of responsibility and we were nervous during the pregnancy but it was more that we wanted healthy babies. We didn't really think about the responsibility afterwards. I feel like having one baby now will be a breeze compared to twins ;)


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:13am

Yes, it's logically-minded people like you, Devin, that remind me just how much I think with my heart and emotions instead of my brain! We have reasons for waiting too, but those reasons could be important enough to push it off for literally years. Now that we've decided to start in May, I keep thinking "That's only 2.5 months away. What's the difference of 2.5 months over the course of a lifetime?"

I love your last sentence. My heart beats baby too.


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 9:15am

LOL, amberlee. I do have those moments too. Today will probably be one of those days. My husband won't be home until after the twins' bedtime so I'll be taking care of them all by myself. I hear them throwing tantrums with the part-time nanny downstairs right now, so it may be a rough day. It's times like that when I think about how hard it would be to have a newborn on top of that.

But then I just think about that tiny little body that I'll be baby wearing and breast feeding and think, how hard can it be?


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 11:34am
That's what I've heard as well! That once you become a mom, you're constantly worried! I am like that with our cat, I worry about him and constantly want to protect him! It's not the same as a baby of course, but it's good practice for us, lol.


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Mon, 02-22-2010 - 3:56pm

I feel like an oddball even saying this:

Jules - Happily married and Momma to DS, DD and expecting our Caboose Baby 11/24/2012


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