How do you split the costs of sports?

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Registered: 07-07-2011
How do you split the costs of sports?
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Fri, 01-11-2013 - 2:22pm

We have a bit of a dilemma going on with my dh's ex.  She wants their daughter to join a travel soccer league team, rather than the local youth league that she's been playing in.  It will require a lot more money than what we've been spending, for uniforms, tournaments, etc. and I really don't see the point.  I feel that the ex should fork over the extra funds if she's set on doing this, the sd is just fine with staying with the youth league.  I think her mom is really pushing her to be this big soccer player that she really doesn't care to be.  I'm also tired of her asking us to fork over the money without us having an input beforehand.   Grr! 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-11-2013 - 2:39pm

Was this covered in their divorce agreement?  If not, I think it depends on a lot of factors--who can afford it, whether the DD wants it, who is going to be taking her to practice & games?  There's no one-size fits all answer here (and I'm a divorce lawyer).  I know that when my DD took gymnastics I paid for it and it was a big expense. I was really glad when she switched to soccer which was about $25 a season, not including the uniforms.  Then when our DS took karate, which was also expensive, my ex paid for it--I think more because he wanted his son to like sports.  When my ex wanted to sign up son for swiming lessons, I said "if you pick it, then you can take him on your time & you are paying" and he agreed.  I also think that as the SM you should really stay out of it as much as possible & let your DH deal w/ his ex (even if you make your input known to him).