It's not always the Brady Bunch...

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It's not always the Brady Bunch...
Tue, 01-22-2013 - 4:08pm

I thought that the following article was an honest representation of the view from the children invoved in a blended family.  It talks about how the children feel they had no control over becoming a new family, and had resentment over the change in their lives:  

He had two older brothers who had moved on to the adventures of college and he had felt abandoned, left to navigate the wilderness of his new home and new life. His eyes betrayed his feelings of powerlessness as he leaned towards me, his hands nervously outlining the edges of his well-worn baseball cap. He mumbled, "I don't want to seem ungrateful, I really don't, but nobody asked me."

Nobody asked me. His muted pronouncement sounded like a glaring indictment.

You can read the complete article at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mary-t-kelly-ma/nobody-asked-me-the-pligh_b_2442859.html?ref=topbar

Do you think that your children can relate to how the child in the article feels?  Did you try to include them in making the decision on becoming a blended family?