Pregnant and not excited..been there/done that
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|Sat, 01-26-2013 - 11:42am|
My husband and I are both divorced and each have 2 kids from our previous marriage. I couldn't wait to get pregnant and make our family complete, but now that I'm 8 weeks pregnant I can't seem to get excited. A couple friend of ours is also pregnant, only a few weeks ahead of us. He was talking to the guy the other day at work(it's his first, though his wife has a child from a previous relationship) he was telling him what to expect and how cool it is as you start to be able to feel the baby move, etc. It bummed me out BIG time because there is zero excitement, nothing new about this pregnancy. He's very supportive of me and wants to be at all the appts, etc. But it just doesn't feel exciting to me. My ex was a total douche and never went to any appts with me, didn't act excited either time and I was always to jealous of the women who's husbands were there for everything but now that I got that it's just not as exciting because it's not new for him. He knows exactly what to expect. It's just another thing to add to the list of things that aren't "new" for us....We didn't get to share the experience of buying our first home together, we didn't get to experience the first child together, we didn't get to experience a first wedding together. Everything is second hand and I know it comes with the territory but maybe it's because I'm pregnant and hormones are CRAZY but I'm becoming more and more depressed about it. I just want ONE thing to be new and ours! He keeps telling me it is new for him because I'm the love of his life, blah blah, but I just feel like it's just words. It's gotten to the point I don't even want to talk about the baby anymore. I'm excited about it, don't get me wrong, this baby is very much wanted. It's just what's the point in discussing every new symptom or new thing when it's already been experienced before? Maybe i'm just being a total crazy lady, but surely someone else feel "jipped' when it came to being pregnant when you're with someone who already had kids.