Should we add a baby to our blended family?

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Should we add a baby to our blended family?
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Fri, 03-08-2013 - 4:18pm

My dh and I are kicking around the idea of adding a baby to our blended mix.  On one hand, starting from the ground up with a child is something I'd like to experience with my dh.  On the other hand, adding a baby to the sometimes chaotic mix we already have just feels like we are biting off more than we can chew.  I'm worried about the rocking the boat, it will be an adjustment for the entire family and I know it will cause issues with kids feeling left out, changing around bedrooms, etc.  They already had to adjust to this new way of life, is it too much to take on?

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I don't think anyone else can answer that question for you, esp. since we have minimal info about your situation.  when I married 2nd DH, we were too old to have more kids, so it wasn't an issue.  I think a lot depends on the ages of the kids, whether everyone is getting along now, etc.  If you have more than 1 kid, they had to adjust when the 2nd child was born, etc. so they can adjust.  I would also say it depends on how long you have been married to 2nd DH.  I'd give it some time to adjust to everybody being together before you have a baby, if you can. 

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Registered: 04-26-2011
We just added a baby to our family. I have 3 boys from a previous marriage (9 & 7 y/o twins) and DH has a 7 y/o daughter from a previous marriage. It has been a huge adjustment, but things are working out. I wouldn't change the decision we made. You have to make the decision that is best for your family though. I know we thought about it and weighed the pros and cons for quite some time before making our decision.