Wanting some advice - when Stepmom is/was Mistress
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|Mon, 11-11-2013 - 9:02am|
I would like some advice - sorta flip-flopped.
My husband began having an affair for a while - which led to a looooong divorce. We were done just recently. They say they are going to get married & the woman has now moved into our beautiful marital family home. (The kids & I opted to move into a townhome, for practical reasons - that house is TOO big & $ to maintain).
So I find out that she's moved in & is beautifying the place. Last week, their dad called them wanting to come to the house & enjoy a lovely home-cooked dinner by the mistress. They went over, but were, alledgedly, somewhat rude & did not stay to eat what she'd prepared.
Guess Im just wanting your advice, esp given that this "stepmom" originated with an affair. The kids are well aware of the affair & the lying, adultery, etc. They are 18 & 15.
Advice - as to how I deal with this? Yes, I chose to leave, but it hurts both the kids & I that she has made herself at home already in our lovely family home. Since it's been 2 years since the affair began, they are now actively trying to force them to like her. His mother has even gotten into the act. She wants my kids away from me (I hung the moon - til all this happened - now she hates me & cant quit talking bad about me ... as my hub has tried to persuade his mom to like his mistress.)
How do I deal with this? What should the kids do?