When is the best time to introduce your kids?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
When is the best time to introduce your kids?
Mon, 05-20-2013 - 2:31pm

There are a lot of varying opinions on what is the best time for the kids to be introduced to the new people in your life.

How long did you wait before introducting your children to their current stepparent?  How long before you let the kids meet each other?  

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 05-21-2013 - 10:35am

I think that kids shouldn't be introduced to someone unless it's going to be a serious relationship, which is sometimes hard to tell.  I think I did introduce my kids to my 2nd DH & his DD only a few months in--but I had never introduced them to anyone else I dated.  We did end up getting married so I think we knew that it was serious right from the start--too bad that it turned out to be a big mistake on my part but that's another story.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 05-21-2013 - 4:50pm

I dated DH long distance for most of the relationship so I did not actually introduce him to ODD until the marriage weekend.  She knew of him before then, but had not actually met him.  We did not meet DSS until about 3 months after we were married because DH was active duty military in another state and only saw DSS on holidays and summer visits.  If I had to do it again I would have done it sooner, but our unique situation necessitated it at the time.