daughter in bed naked at daddy's.....
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|Thu, 07-28-2005 - 3:18am|
i work third, kids stay at their dad's about 4-5 nights a week. both kids (ages 6, girl 4½ boy) pee on a weekly basis there. I pick the kids up monday morning and my daughter tells me she peed the bed last night and daddy told her to take her clothes off and to hop in his bed. i'm not insinuating anything, but it's not right. i freaked out when i had chicken pox and my dad had to put cold washclothes on my body to get my temperature down. i was 7 and was freaking out because i was in a nightgown.
i'm the mother and it concerns me, so i brought it to his attention. i was cool about it. i just said, it's not right, a little girl needs clothes. (he was verbally abusive to me the entire 5 yr marriage) and he snapped at me to call the cops or child services. Talk about left field. I don't understand why he was acting that way...maybe feeling a little guilty, embarrassed, defensive. not sure.
but the past two months, i've been making notes. I pick the kids up, they don't have underwear on, my daughter is wearing my son's clothes. i walk in the house and it smells like cat pee.....my daughter sits in a cat pee spot on the couch and my ex has to put her in dirty shorts from the day before because all the laundry that is spead across the living room floor are all unclean.....
ugh. i don't know how to handle this. i'm dealing with a mean man, but for the sake of our children, i think there should be a certain comfortable level of communication. we have shared parenting and he's getting married this saturday to a girl he's known for a month....
i don't know what i could have said that could have been different. he labeled my 'confused' look with a dirty look and that was not the case. my ex litterally jumped my case and threw out excuse after excuse. should i have brought a very alerting concern a different way??? i have the right to say something. he says she peed the bed and while he was sleeping, she crawled in bed with him. she tells a different story.