I left and I'm back again!
Kathy, I totally agree that something is amiss. Your house your rule & the therapist should abide by them or the girls should find their own place to live. if not in school then a job. Are they suppose to hang around the house all day while you provide everything for them? not a very healthy situation for them. Their rooms should be kept relatively clean, they should be helping out around the house & you should have a say in what they do because they are still living w/you. If the therapist is taking away your authority over your house & your life then its time for you to set her straight or stop going. A therapist like that isn't doing anyone any good & will cause more harm in the long run. Your trying to make the girls do the right thing & she seems to be contradiciting that. JMO.
Your mom doesn't need this extra stress but if she's anything like my dad she isn't going to budge. Younger ds commented on how old he's gotten yesterday at Nik's party. Seems like his age is catching up w/him all of a sudden.
I dumped a therapist years ago (I had to take DD to see one in order to get ritalin for her).
I think the girls are putting their own spin on what was said to them. You should have to push them these things you should set rules and they have to live by them Like be a full time student w/passing grades or have a job. There should be a list of things around the house they are expected to do and they need to do them. Youc an also have the respect things