Drama vent - long and boring

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Drama vent - long and boring
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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 12:33am

As I mentioned before, having a baby and being a teen (even if she'll be 20 in Dec.) has been a challenge.


Kathy

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 8:01am

kathy, where was the mom when this drinking was going on? E should have had you or M pick her & Paige right up. Did the boyfriend stay all night while the mom was home? I know they're getting older but I wouldn't be allowing that here.


Having a baby is an adjustment to married couples so I can imagine how much of an adjustment it is for E & how she must feel at times. Seems like she's had alot of problems w/the kids she has met there & I have to wonder what kind of families they come from. I know parents are alot more liberal these days because I saw for myself how dil & ds allowed dil's ds to have his gf sleep over their house for weekends many times. I just couldn't figure out why they would do that especially since dil wanted someone to raise my dgd if something happened to them who had morals. I guess she figured having morals didn't count as long as she was raising dgd. lol


Its going to be tense it takes time to adjust to a new baby & E is young. How is the counseling going? Btw, if I remeber correctly babies have a way of kicking off those socks no matter how well they fit & that would have made me angry her suggesting that paige wasn't being cared for properly between the socks & the baby food. Tell E it might be best if she stayed away from that girl for awile & that house. Next time they want a sleep over have it at your house where your in control.


I've finally come to the conculsion that Nik needs counseling. She's unhappy, moody & miserable. She's hostile to me & is always snapping at me, which is not like her at all. her grades are horrible & she isn't making any friends at school. The school doesn't want to hear it so I've given up on that front. She's forgetful, going to bed way too late & just very negative about everything which isn't her personality at all. I'm worried about dh & worried about her. I think if we can get into a place of our own she might straighten out a bit because things will be more normal. She shuts herself in her bedroom & does nothing but watch videos on you tube when she's suppose to be doing her homework. To say I'm stressed is putting it mildly. So I guess there is stress in both our houses.


Paige is a beautiful baby & looks very healthy in her pictures so I guess the ped knows what he's doing & so does E.

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 9:56am

Good for E, for not taking that drink. Shame on them for giving her a hard time about things, and having the BF staying the night.


YDD didn't get food until she was 1 yr old. That was the Dr telling me that was the best plan since ODD had many food allergies as a small child. My kids never kept socks on even DGS who is 3 would rather be bare foot.


I can see a BF spending the night for a few things but not in the same room. YDD's BF might spend the night Christmas Eve but he will be sleeping away from her. He just turned 19 and if he is going to be alone. His sisters are talking about going out of town togehter and leaving him alone and his mom lives in another state. We're

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 3:40pm

"I've finally come to the conculsion that Nik needs counseling. She's unhappy, moody & miserable. She's hostile to me & is always snapping at me, which is not like her at all. her grades are horrible & she isn't making any friends at school."


Dee, this to me sounds like the classic "welcome to the teen yrs" happenings.

 

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Mon, 11-09-2009 - 9:12pm

Thank you Colleen for a different perspective. She started her period last Sept., got braces

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Tue, 11-10-2009 - 2:18am

Where was the mom?


Kathy