Got some news this morning.

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Got some news this morning.
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:03am

My sister told us her husband had to be rushed to the hospital for either a bleeding ulcer, a hemorrhaging liver or perhaps a burst vessel somewhere internally. For my sisters' sake I hope he pulls through, but he has been such a monster to her. Especially since she's been undergoing chemo for ovarian cancer. He's been an alcoholic as long as I've known him and they've been married 36 years. Such a difficult situation. She said she doesn't know whether to cry or slap him! I simply told her that we'll hope he pulls through and comes away with a better perspective regarding his health and just how LUCKY he is to have her by his side.

Sharon (dementedlibra)!! Sorry. Forgot to sign out of my other ivillage persona! How embarrassing!

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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:06am

Ahhhh...much better.LOL I panic when I do that!

Sharon

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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:19am
Hopefully, he will look at life a bit different how and appreciate your sister now. I hope your sister's chemo treatment works and that she will be cancer free soon.

Judy

-Judy

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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 12:08pm

Thank you Judy. We were all shocked by her diagnosis! It's been several months ago but she thought she had pnuemonia. My Mom took her to the ER and they discovered a horrible dark colored fluid around her lungs. When they tested it they discovered the cancer cells and assumed it was lung cancer. As it turns out it was ovarian. Odd huh? But, she's getting her chemo treatments in Tucson, AZ and all we've had is good news so far.

Sharon

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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 2:20pm
Sending P&PTs to you & your family. Your poor sister seems to have a lot on her plate right now. I hope all goes well for your BIL.

Dee
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Thu, 09-20-2012 - 10:07pm

Got word from my sister that the BIL definitely has cirrhosis of his liver. She says he is in complete denial and thinks he can just take some medication and get better. The doctor has told him he will need a liver transplant at some point but he has to be alcohol free for at least 6 months before it can be considered. Unless he snaps out of it, I don't know that he can do it. Sis said she went straight home and disposed of every drop of alcohol in their house. She knows it probably won't do any good, but it made her feel better albeit temporary.

Sharon

 

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 8:13am
I have a cousin (many years older than I) that had a drinking problem. Her family would pour out all the alcohol and take her keys. However, she would just call a cab and go get more. It is so sad for families that have to deal with issues such as this.

-Judy

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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 7:21pm
Good luck to your sister in dealing with this issue. My Mom is an alcoholic & there isn't anything anyone can do to make them stop drinking unless they decide to do it. Mom was sober for over 20 yrs after I told her she would not get access to her grandkids after lying to me saying she never drank while I was in the hospital with my 2nd child. She was at our place with 1st. After she left we found 4 empty 40 oz bottles of booze. She must have brought this with her never intending to stay sober as we hid all of our alcohol.

She was sober until about 5 yrs ago & started drinking a glass of wine a day but in reality it was a large bottle. I have threatened her, taken her car away from her & chosen to limit our contact but she refuses to stop. Says it's her life to do as she wishes.

Good luck! Dee
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Fri, 09-21-2012 - 9:14pm

I truly don't believe he'll change. I'm guessing just being in the hospital without access to alcohol is driving him crazy. Such a shame. He's got two beautiful daughters..a grandson and brand new granddaughter and it's not enough. I'm sorry about your Mom. Although not related, we watched a dear friend of my parents lose his battle with liver disease due to drinking and he didn't even make it to 40! We just have to be there for my sister at this point.

Sharon