Grandma daycare?

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Registered: 11-29-2011
Grandma daycare?
Mon, 08-12-2013 - 3:59pm

Good news is that I'm going to be a grandma again!  My youngest is expecting her first child in January!   Bad news (although maybe not so bad?) is that they asked if I would babysit for them when my daughter firsts goes back to work.  She's a teacher so it would be for a couple of months until the school year is out.  

While I have helped out when my grandkids are born, going to stay with the parents when they need me to, help out with housework or whatever needs done, etc. it hasn't ever been a long term thing.  I'll help out when they need me to, but my life is still my own.  My daughter is already trying to figure out what they'll do when their baby is born.    Financially, it would help them out a great deal if I help them in this area.  I can't believe how expensive sitters are!   I'm so torn, because it would be wonderful to have that time with my grandchild, I'm also going to miss having my freedom.  I'm sure I'll cave in, especially after seeing him or her for the first time. 

I know there is going to be some grumbling from her siblings since I didn't do this for them.  I just feel the circumstances are different, her and her husband don't make as much money.  I do babysit for them, so it's not like I'm only doing for one and not the other.

What would you do?



Avatar for Cmmelissa
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Registered: 11-13-2008
Thu, 08-15-2013 - 3:15pm

I would probably do it since it's only for a couple of months and you'd get quality time with your new grandbaby.  You could talk with the others if they grumble, but I figure it will all come around in the end with your involvement with their children.  Is there another relative, like the other grandma, that could occasionally chip in to help so you get some free time?

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Registered: 05-30-2004
Mon, 09-09-2013 - 11:27pm

I've done it for both my grandsons. I've taken care of them since they were tiny babies. In fact, my oldest grandson is only 15 months younger than my son so at one point I was toting around a toddler and a newborn. Now the oldest grandson is a sophmore in high school so I haven't had to care for him in a long time!! The younger grandson just started first grade and I will probably be babysitting him until he can stay home alone. It's been a joy! I never felt I lost my freedom, but then again I'm a home body. Other than my children and their families my hubby and I have zero social life.HA! We don't have a circle of friends we like to hang out with.

So, helping with the grandsons has not interfered and helps me stay mobile.Tongue Out


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Avatar for deenow17
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Registered: 10-12-2004
Thu, 09-12-2013 - 1:46am
This is a hard decision. My DH babysat my grandson until he started jk & it got harder as they both got older. But the bond they have is wonderful. 3rd most important person in the world to my grandson is his Poppa. My DD just had her daughter 3 mths ago & the comment has been made that now that I'm retired, I can do the babysitting this time. Main difference is that we now live 2 1/2 hrs away not 1/2 hr & I would have to go to live with DD while I do my babysitting. We don't have to make the final decision until next Spring but I'm guessing I will agree to do it part time because I really want that opportunity. Good luck, Dee