Grumpy today

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Grumpy today
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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 6:38pm

Guess I'm feeling sorry for myself. I miss the kids as I haven't seen any of them in 3 wks since eldest DS returned home to BC. Not likely to see him again before next April. My youngest DS & his fiancee were to come up last week but both were sick. So they are saying it will be Cdn Thanksgiving before they have free time to head this way. I get that everyone has busy lives but I get so jealous of my youngest DS's future in laws & my DD's in laws as they see the kids a lot.

DS & his fiancee moved in with her parents to save money so my DS could go to school full time. Between his school & part time job, he has little free time for the 75 min drive here. There isn't really any place for us to visit them as they have a bedroom in the basement at her parents. DD lives 2 hrs away & her in laws are 30 mins away. SIL prefers to spend time with his family, so we didn't see much of them even when we were only 30 mins away. SIL's brother was just married Sept long weekend & so they spent 4 days with his family, then DD has 1 1/2 days of last weekend & they went to her in laws cottage last weekend. It's hard for us to go into see DD & my grandson as DD works so many shifts & rarely has more than 24 hrs off. SIL ignores us when we are there, so we feel like we shouldn't stay too long.

 

Oh well, time to pull it together. We will see DS, DD, grandson & SIL on Sat for SIL birthday. Hope I can get my grandma fix on Sun as it won't happen on Sat with the other grandmother there. She has never been able to let me spend time with our grandson. So I just let her have him rather than confuse the poor kid with 2 women fighting over him. lol Don't get me wrong, they are nice people.

 

Dee 

 

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In reply to: deenow17
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 7:59pm

Awww Dee, I'm so sorry. I hope you do get your Grandma fix. Sadly there are families living even closer together than you and yours and still don't see each other. At least you know you will eventually. My dh has a brother 30 minutes from here yet they haven't seen each other in years! That just seems so sad to me.

Sharon

 

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 9:57am
I would be grumpy too! My sister-n-law is like that. Every thing revolves around her side of the family and I know my brother gets upset with her. They have been married 20 years - so some things just won't change! I hope you get to have some quality time with them. Just remember it is quality that counts.

Judy

-Judy

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 10:45am
My husband is from a family like that. They used to live close but we rarely see them unless it's me extending the invitation. DH is the middle child & the other 4 seem to have built a bond excluding him. Also, I'm the only outsider who has stayed in the marriage. Neither BIL have been married or in an acknowledge relationship. Both SIL have been divorced twice & DH just hit 37 yrs together.

FB makes it frustrating as they think nothing of posting comments/picture celebrating with their "family". But it's interesting in that when they want money for a gift, we are on the dist list & I always make DH send it.

Dee
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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 11:35am

Funny you should mention the whole gift thing. We got a wedding announcement from one of dh's neices...his sisters' youngest daughter. We never hear from her or the sister yet along with the wedding announcement and invite they give us a link to FB regarding their "gift wishes" and where they are registered! Good grief! Dh and I are going to have to have a serious discussion about this one.LOL

In the end I'm guessing we'll send a token gift of some kind, but at the moment his daughter from a previous marriage and her Mom are both having serious health issues so we've been sending what little $$ we can to help with co-pays and such.

Sharon

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 9:23pm
We just contributed to DH's SIL's 65th birthday cruise. Her birthday isn't until Nov & now we are waiting to see if we get invited to birthday party. Her thank you on FB was to her wonderful children for giving her this cruise. So we aren't even sure she knows we contributed.

I would give your money to those who need it first. I'm not a fan of these wedding announcements as I feel it's only an attempt to get a gift.

Dee
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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 11:24pm

I agree completely! The same goes with birthday party invitations when my girls were younger. Many of the kids they barely knew!

Sharon