Just wanted to let you know

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Just wanted to let you know
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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 1:06am

Things have not been going well in our house.


Kathy

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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 9:54am

Kathy, E is most likely still in postpartum depression & the dr. should be seeing her, if she isn't taking E seriously you need to find another dr. who will take her seriously. As for the babies dad E needs to talk this out w/someone, I'm sure she is feeling hurt that he isn't showing an interest in P & E most likely thought once P was born dad would have been around alot more & possibly they would have gotten back together. I hope your documenting all his non interest because you just never know when you might need it.


As for her hair its no big deal she most likely just needed to change something in her life she has control over to make her feel like she has control. Thats why our hair always takes the blunt of our emotions, I think its our outlet to our control of ourselves.


How is she with the baby? Are you taking care of the baby more then she does? I have the feeling this pregnancy may not have been an accident but its not turning out like E had thought it would & now she's feeling the emotions & consequences of what she did. She needs to look at that beautiful baby & know she has her & can be a good mother & take care of her & they will always be a team.


E is a very pretty girl w/alot to offer someone & she needs to get that thru her head. I wish she could see the pyscologist my dil went to & I think is still seeing because that girl thinks she's the most perfect person in the world & looks down on everyone else. Don't want E like that but a little of that won't hurt kwim?


Let us know how things are going & todaY IS nIK'S 1ST appt. w/a pyscologist. We think she needs it after the yr. she's had. BTW her bio told dh that we need to find a church & go to learn to be humble, can you believe he could tell his dad something like that after the yr. we've had. The house we bought is really bugging him & gf, its just a very small house nothing grand about it at all. Imagine if we still had the FL house? lol

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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 4:41pm
Well after the talk we had I think you know pretty much how I feel.

Woodstock (gwen)

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Tue, 01-19-2010 - 12:00pm

Boy do

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Tue, 01-19-2010 - 2:08pm
Kathy I though after reading the last post I would add something.

Woodstock (gwen)

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Wed, 01-20-2010 - 1:06am

Gotta tell you all what I did today.


Kathy

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Wed, 01-20-2010 - 1:33am

Your post sounds very similar to what I'm going thru w/E.


Kathy

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Wed, 01-20-2010 - 11:04am

Kathy, did you ever hear back from the drs. office? How is E feeling today about taking meds. I think its a good idea for her to get a job, maybe something part time may help her feel like she's contributing to P & give her an outlet to interact w/other people.


Where did she meet the friends she has now? If she could find some new friends that would be helpful. Is there a group in your area of moms like her she could join? It would help her alot to be around other moms like her & have an outlet to vent, brag etc w/girls who are in the same situation she is in.


As for the babies dad & I use that term loosely she needs to see him for what he is & leave him in the dust behind her & P. I think once she realizes what a jerk this guy is & can make peace w/that she will feel better about herself. I'm hoping that comes sooner then later. She has to realize he has no interest in P & let him go.


Keep us posted we're all hoping for the best for her & praying.

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Wed, 01-20-2010 - 12:02pm

Have you contacted the school for Parents as Teachers for P? They should come to your home and they might know of some other groups that E could get involved with for support.


As for E and going on meds if she has been on them before and they helped great if not it could be a long road before you find the ones that will help. The meds never worked well for ODD. For us with ODD when she was on the meds she was even worst, she even ODed on her meds and we almost lost her. Keep yours eyes wide open if she is getting frustrated with P whne she is crying. That is when ODD would get rough with DGS and there were times he was hurt not that ODD ment to hurt him but it happened. It was the thing that was the last straw for us taking him and then when it hapened after we had custody

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Wed, 01-20-2010 - 12:04pm

Yes, my Dr called me this morning.


Kathy

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Wed, 01-20-2010 - 4:05pm

YES! Female Dr.s are the best!

 

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