Vent here, I know dad is old but
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|Tue, 11-10-2009 - 9:02am|
when I moved in here dad & I had a talk about the house hold expenses. It was agreed that we would split everything in half. All utilities were to be put in my name. He gave me 1/2 of the electirc bill the 1st month & then dh came home from the hospital w/his vent & a 24 hr. oxygen making machine. I told dad since the bill would be high due to this I didn't think we should split this bill & if he felt like it he could give me whatever he wanted or nothing at all. So he complained about it & gives me nothing which is fine I gave him the option. The water bill came in & he said it was too high & he wasn't going to pay it, I asked him what it usually was & he would not tell me. I looked at the bill & there was a big difference from when ds, dil & the kids lived here, it was alot less usuage. We decided that he would pay the water & I would pay the elctric & we would split the oil. I apy for all the food, paper products, toilet, etc., all the laundry products & cleaning stuff, cable TV which he is the only one who watches it because he sits all day & night inffront of the TV. So all in all he pays the water & we pay electric, food, cable & any other expenses that come up. Yesterday we received an oil delivery & he handed the bill to dh & said this is yours. It was a $600.00 bill. Last night I asked dad if he wanted to contribute anything to it. He looked at me & said no, he paid to get the lawn cut all summer & to fix the inground sprinklers so he has no interest in paying anything towards the oil bill.
Ds & dil was suppose to change all utilities when they bought this house into their name & NEVER did. They left dad w/an electric bill of $350.00 which went into collections, a 1400.00 dollar oil bill. I had to change all utilities into my name for this reason because I wasn't paying any bills for dil & ds. Dad paid them all. The boiler is scheduled to be cleaned & ds hasn't paid the contract, I offered to get it in my name & ds said no it was his house. To date it has not been paid & dad has told me when the oil company services the boiler we will have to pay for it. I told dad its the landlords responsibility since the landlord told me he wanted the contract in his name.
I am sitting here so angry this morning that I was dumb enough to move in here. Dil wanted out & she got out because I agreed to move in. I should have stayed at my other ds's who drives up here all the time to help out. We never see ds & dil who live about 10 houses up the street. I even paid half for a new carpet in the den because dad wanted it & I was told I had to split the price. I told dad from the start I would not pay to have anything done to the lawn because its not my house & ds should be taking care of it. Dad just lets ds & dil have whatever they want & do whatever they want, he sold them this house $100,000 below market value w/the understanding he could live here for the rest of his life w/no bills. That never happened.
We'll pay all the bills & I will never ask dad to honor our agreement but it leaves a very bitter taste in my mouth & alot of hurt in me. I guess dad was never honest about things & he still feels as if ds & dil should have everything they want when they want it. He just gave my ds a few thousand dollars & I haven't a clue why. The faster we find a house the better off we will be & the less stress I will have.