BM wants to give up overnight visititation

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Registered: 02-06-2014
BM wants to give up overnight visititation
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Thu, 02-20-2014 - 12:58pm

What are you opinions on this? The kids are requried to be at BM's parents' house during her visitation. They came home last weekend and told us their mother said she may only get them during the day saturdays or sundays because she is "tired of her parents raising them and not her". She later told my husband that she wants to talk about her visitation, that she only wants to get the kids during the day because it is difficult to get them to her parent's house. She lives in an apartment with roommates so having the 3 kids at her place isn't an option. What do you think about this? Should we have the court order ammended or try to work out visitation every weekened? Do you think it makes sense for her to do this or do you think there is an ulterior motive?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 02-27-2014 - 8:38pm

So when the kids are staying over at their GPs' house, does the mom stay over with them or leave them with the GPs?  If she doesn't stay over, does she come back the next day?  I think there are some things to consider here--first of all, obviously when they are sleeping, they aren't interacting with anyone, so it's the awake time they spend with their mom that's important.  Do the kids like sleeping over GP's house?  Do the GPs like having them over or is it difficult for them?  Would they get the same amount of time spent with the mom if they just spent a full day with her?  It's impossible for people who do not know the mom to determine what her motives are.  I would suggest that if you can all come to an agreement, to try things out and see how they work out before amending the court order.  Maybe you can email with her to confirm the new arrangement so everything is clear and in writing in case it comes up later.