Chores for stepkids?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2011
Chores for stepkids?
Tue, 01-22-2013 - 5:06pm

I was curious what types of chores or how much you have your stepkids be responsible for if they aren't at your house as much.  I want to make sure that I'm not overdoing it, or underdoing it for that matter!    Is it just basic picking up after themselves or more involved than that?   Does it change when they are with you over longer periods on school breaks?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 01-27-2013 - 10:48pm

My DSD lived w/ us all the time, so I guess I'll try to guess about when my kids visit their dad.  They were usually over there 2 nights for dinner plus EO Sat/Sun.  I think that most of their chores were really only of the pick up after yourself/help with dinner variety.  I don't really recall my DD saying anything more, but my DS does help his dad w/ mowing the lawn.  They really never spent more than 2 nights in a row over there.  I would think if the kids were around for a week or something, there would be more of a chance to help with chores--I also think their dad should be telling them what to do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-2004
Sun, 02-03-2013 - 8:06am

Same rules apply to all kids in the family,  otherwise  the siblings will have  something more to argue about. What chores they do is age based, and yes picking up, making the bed and helping out is normal things they should do.  How else would they learn how to clean, cook and take care of them self when they move out at an older age?

 I dont see my  oldest daughter as a stepdaughter, she is the oldest sister of her little sister, she is part of the family and she is my daughter too.


Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:37am
I know this is an older post but thought I'd jump in. We have DSS over christmas and half the summer. He gets put right into the chore rotation. We have an 18 year old that is a senior in high school, he is 14 and we have a 3 and 5 year old. The 18 year old is not home much at all between activities and jobs, but she's responsible for her chores all the time, and when he comes, he's in charge of doing his own laundry, rotation on doing the dishes, usually always loading them and the other kids empty it since the younger ones can empty but its harder for them to load it, and then he's responsible for picking up after himself and helping with the yard work. DH owns his own business so DSS will go with him to work several days a week and is paid for the time he works and that gets put into his bank account at the end of the summer.