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|Sun, 10-28-2012 - 6:14pm|
I am posting here today in hopes to find other women who have or are experiencing the same issue as I, and to ideally, find ways to overcome this problem.
My stepdaughter is 9, I have known her for over a year but have been dating her father for a couple months now. We get along fantastically, I am really enjoying being with the two of them. We do a lot of activities together. Him and her mom have been seperated for 2 years, from what he tells me it was pretty dramatic when she moved out (understandably). Her father is great, shows her affection, tucks her in at night, talks to her about how she doing/dealing with new changes...
As much as I find it easy to take over the mother role for her, I carry around guilt related to her birth mom. I want them to carry on a healthy relationship, and I know they have their own set of issues still so they struggle with that.. I should mention that she wanted to call me "mom" but I told her I wasnt comfortable with that. She has not been getting along well with her mother even before I came into the picture.
Now, the reason I am posting.. She is extremely clingy towards me. She has always been this way with me, from the moment we started hanging out. From the second I step out of our bedroom in the morning, she is there to grab my hand and pull me to the living room or wherever she plans to take me. In public, and when introducing me to her family and friends, she will peer out and wait for them to be looking in our direction and then needily kiss me (on the lips) or hold on to my arm, in a sort of flaunting kind of way.
I understand she is going through a lot, Im entirely aware that this is a new change for her. I just want to help her feel secure in so that she isn't so clingy towards me. Anyone know what I can do to help ease her anxiety? Or maybe its something her dad should be doing/or isn't doing?