Do you take time for yourself?

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Do you take time for yourself?
Mon, 01-13-2014 - 10:11am

When you throw stepkids into the mix, it can take even more time away from your own well being, not to mention add more stress onto daily life: 

Experts say it’s no surprise that women forget – or even disregard – the need to take care of themselves.

Women often feel guilty about taking time for themselves, says psychiatrist and TODAY contributor Dr. Gail Saltz. “There is some maternal ideal of being self-sacrificing that just isn’t consistent with having time for yourself,” she said.

The key, says Saltz, is for women to recognize the difference between being selfish in a bad way and being selfish in a healthy way.

“You have to put on your oxygen mask first,” she says. “If you go to pieces, everyone is going down with you. So you have to give time to yourself. That is healthy, not selfish or narcissistic. That is a tough concept for a lot of women.”

Saltz acknowledges that free time is a scarcity for many women, but adds that even as little as 15 to 30 minutes a day to decompress will help.

Do you feel guilty if you take time for yourself when the stepkids are in your custody?  How do you find balance in your life?