Documentation

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Documentation
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 5:02pm

Hey SMs!!! Helping my DH out and I decided to ask if other SMs do this:


BM in my sitch went to court to try to change the CO earlier last year. What she didn't know at the time was that her attorney is an idiot and never filed the final order. It can't be modified (specifically CS) for another three years since she just filed it when she found out.


Now that I know she is seeking an adjustment I have 3 years to keep documentation of how much money DH spends on SD as well as everything else. We know that BM doesn't exactly spend the almost $1k she gets in CS on SD, but if SD has a roof over her head and food, we

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Registered: 12-19-2009
In reply to: stepdiva
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 11:19pm

we save everything. and i mean everything. every receipt is filed away and tallied into custody toolbox. it is a computer program you can download from the internet. in our situation, the CS is court ordered, but BM and DH have worked out a pathetic parenting time schedule on their own. DH has been trying to get her to increase time on his end for 2 years to no avail. we have tracked every phone call, pick up, drop off, discipline in our home, important conversation, school contact and expense for nearly

 

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Registered: 12-31-2009
In reply to: stepdiva
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 1:24pm

Agreed!


This is not about being petty at all. He does things and buys things because he loves her, but of course the only person who has an interest in showing that in court is DH. BM is not going to come forward with "yes, he took her to Mexico for spring break" or "well, actually he did buy one-hundred percent of her school clothes..." This is up to us to document and so I do it!