I hate funerals.
(((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry that you lost your Auntie!!!!!!!!!!
You keep worrying about what everyone else does.
How do you face them? Say hi and move on to people you like!
Go to the funeral, ignore her and talk to family. Just because you are in the same place doesn't mean you need to have a long convo with her. Just let her do what she does and don't let it bother you. It doesn't matter, in the long run.
And if DH decides to open up a relationship with his girls...let him. You don't have to be a part of it. He's a big boy and he can do what he wants. If it is a mistake, he'll find out eventually.
I would stay out of it. Talk to people you want to talk to and ignore others. Less stressful that way. Don't let others bug you so much!! It only causes you more worry and stress and you can't help or change what they do anyway. So, who cares... Let them look fake. Others may not call them out & cause a scene, but I am sure if she is that fake they probably know & put up with it for the girls sake!
Hope this helps,Jen
OK, this sucks.
Well here's my update.
I made it through and was better for it.
If DH died today (morbid!) I would welcome BM (and even SF, whom I don't think I've discussed much on this board, but basically, I loathe him with the fire of a thousand suns) to the funeral.
Thanks for your advice.