Funeral chaos with ex and adult SKs

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Funeral chaos with ex and adult SKs
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Wed, 02-10-2010 - 9:46am

I hate funerals.

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 5:46pm

Hi Happy,


(((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry that you lost your Auntie!!!!!!!!!!

KRISTIE
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Registered: 06-08-2008
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 11:25am

You keep worrying about what everyone else does.

How do you face them? Say hi and move on to people you like!

Go to the funeral, ignore her and talk to family. Just because you are in the same place doesn't mean you need to have a long convo with her. Just let her do what she does and don't let it bother you. It doesn't matter, in the long run.

And if DH decides to open up a relationship with his girls...let him. You don't have to be a part of it. He's a big boy and he can do what he wants. If it is a mistake, he'll find out eventually.

I would stay out of it. Talk to people you want to talk to and ignore others. Less stressful that way. Don't let others bug you so much!! It only causes you more worry and stress and you can't help or change what they do anyway. So, who cares... Let them look fake. Others may not call them out & cause a scene, but I am sure if she is that fake they probably know & put up with it for the girls sake!

Hope this helps,
Jen


wedding planning
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Registered: 12-21-2006
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 1:12pm
Believe me, I know you're right...I've heard it all before.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2008
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 11:16am
So......how did it go?
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Registered: 09-22-2008
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 6:50pm

OK, this sucks.

 
britneywert
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Registered: 12-21-2006
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 7:48am

Well here's my update.


I made it through and was better for it.

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 7:58am

If DH died today (morbid!) I would welcome BM (and even SF, whom I don't think I've discussed much on this board, but basically, I loathe him with the fire of a thousand suns) to the funeral.

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Registered: 11-08-2008
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 1:38pm
Oh thank GOD that's overwith, and that she didnt go to the luncheon!!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-21-2006
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 10:35am

Thanks for your advice.

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 02-17-2010 - 1:16pm

Hi Happy,


KRISTIE

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