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|Sun, 08-12-2012 - 3:33pm|
Let me start off by saying I love my soon-to-be stepdaughter very much. She's three and beautiful and fun. A month or so, her dad's parenting time was reduced significantly by the courts. Since then, her behavior has gone into a tailspin, and it wasn't that great to begin with. She's always had trouble with not listening, not eating, etc... the normal control issues, but now she's been hateful to her father, and she threw my clothes in the trash, as well as ripping a hairbow out of her infant step-sister's hair, because "she wanted one like that". She knows this behavior is unacceptable. The problem is, her father doesn't do anything about it. The actions I described above are just a sampling of the things she does to manipulate and get attention. I know she is only three, and that she needs to be taught correct behavior, but it seems like I'm the only one that sees this. I know she's not evil, she's just hurt and acting out, but what am I to do about it if her father lets it go on? It's to the point where he says he's leaving me and his other daughter, because he's "sick of my s**t," because I'm hurt by her behavior and want him to do something about it. He says the three year old has no issues, and everything's fine. I love him dearly, and love her dearly. I'm going to lose him over this. And for everyone that says, just let her act like that... I can't. This type of behavior is mean and I won't tolerate it. I don't know what to do to help us, but I know that I can't let her continue to act this way. Just... help.
Oh, and about her mother... she's too cheap to put her in preschool, we just found out that she's 11 vaccines behind. She doesn't exactly have a great home life. The only reason his parenting time was shortened is because he moved and she didn't want to have to drive to get her, and because he wanted her in school and pressed the issue. She just wants him off her back so she can parent badly and not be accountable.