Help help help...very upset and stunned.

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Help help help...very upset and stunned.
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Sun, 02-14-2010 - 10:39am

Gosh. I am just stunned...and sad and ANGRY and I dont know what else to say about how I feel.


SS is 14. He is doing great--unles he visits his mom which now is one weekend a month--we have him full time otherwise.


Last visit we found out that he had been caught with kids breaking into a house, smking pot etc. Well come to find out he didnt do anything besides show up there whenhis TEN yes TEN year old brother had been gone from the house for 2 hours from 8-10 p.m. Where was mom? Sleeping off the pills she takes.


So we find out that he has been arrested up there (two hours from where we live) at his moms house and that he DIDNT do what the other kids did. Why did she tell us? She had to. The next DAY we got the papers saying the case that happened in AUGUST would be turned to our county since we are the FT parents. OMG where to even start with that one.


Anyway, she NOW wants her 10 year old little s**t kid who doesnt listen, drinks, smokes pot AND gets his brother into trouble to...brace yourself: MOVE HERE!!!!!!!


She initially said that he wanted to visit on every other weekend. Umm No way! I cannot belive this woman!


DH is NOT the father of the other kid and has NO interest in bringing him here. ONe side of me feels so bad for this kis knowing his life is going no where up there. The other sid esays THIS IS NOT OUR ISSUE!!


However..he IS SS brother!!

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Sun, 02-14-2010 - 5:03pm
Sorry, I can't offer any advice. Just wanted to say I hope it all works out for the best.

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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 11:58am
Wow...I realize you are in a Very tough spot, but honestly?? You just have to draw the line and consider this "not your problem."
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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 8:11pm
I have to agree, this child is not your problem.
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Tue, 02-16-2010 - 9:37am

Thanks for the replies guys....I cannot believe this is even happening. Get this: She sent her son down for the "exchange" when we pick up SS...so her kid comes runnign up and says, "I hope I get to come over soon!" Unreal...so evil of her. This was AFTER we replied to the email on Friday night saying, it will not work for him to come here. that its not a good idea and our scheduled wont permit it.


She THEN sent a reply on Saturday saying, "she hoped we would reconsider even just a weekend so that she can go to a hotel with her boyfriend." No kidding.

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Registered: 11-08-2008
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 1:27pm
wow...the gall of that woman!!
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Tue, 02-16-2010 - 6:15pm
That is just so unbelievable, I really feel for you!!!
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Tue, 03-02-2010 - 5:08pm
My heart goes out to the younger boy as he at one time was just an innocent kid with not any opportunity to experience a positive environment.