Needing your input....

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Registered: 01-22-2010
Needing your input....
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Wed, 01-27-2010 - 9:09pm

Hey Ladies!

I had a question.... At what age do you think kids should start being able to dress themselves and pick out their clothes?

Crazy question I know, But my DSD is almost 7. She stays with my soon to be in-laws during the week because my DF goes to work super early and gets home about 6ish so she stays with them. My DF and soon to be in laws live walking distance to each other. My DSD clothes are all at my mother in laws house and DF will take her over there to get ready for church and stuff. Well he will always be gone for like 30mins and I will always say "get lost?" he will always say "well I had to get her dressed". Isnt it time she dress her self? Or am I wrong? I have no kids of my own so I have NO IDEA!!!! Even if he picks out her clothes I think she can put them on herself, or she is old enough to pick out her own clothes. I just think DF and his mother baby her too much and I am not going to baby her like they do, shes growing up!!

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 1:53pm

My girls are teens now so it's hard to remember exactly what happened when.

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Registered: 01-22-2010
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 8:20pm
Thanks girl that helped! lol yeah we do the same she goes in old clothes cause it will never return to our house. we also take all her hair bands, bows and rubber bands out cause they will never return to our house either! Its awful!!!
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Registered: 07-22-2009
Thu, 01-28-2010 - 11:46pm

At about 3 years old, my kids were dressing themselves (including picking out their own clothes).

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 2:50pm
I've learned that everyone does everything on their own timelines especially when it comes to their kids.
KRISTIE
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Registered: 06-28-2008
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 5:32pm

I'd just like to throw in a comment about your last statement:

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Registered: 01-22-2010
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 6:46pm
WOW That was NOT what I was saying. ALl I was asking was I dont want her always thinking we will do everything for her. There is a point when a kid does its own, I was just wondering at what age was all. I love my DF more than anything, I trust him more than anything. I dont time him, his parents literally live 5 steps away next door, just usually he says hes going to drop her off to his mom so i just thought it wouldnt be 30mins. I am just wanting her to not ALWAYS depend on people to do stuff for her, there will be times we are busy and can not dress her, she needs to learn.
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Registered: 06-28-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 4:21pm

Again, that's going to be up to DF to teach her (or maybe GM).

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 5:59pm
I know that you're not trying to overstep your boundaries here, I know how you feel. Just keep in mind that everything takes time, especially with kids. I mean my SS (12) still can't get himself up in the morning to go to school, DH and I have to wake up sometimes hours before either of us have to work, just to make sure he gets up and goes to school. Just let things go at the pace they're going to go, you can't control time. Good luck to you.
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